Stringing me along?

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Registered: 11-16-2003
Stringing me along?
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Thu, 07-01-2010 - 1:09am
I met this guy back in May. We have been out twice. We stay in communication, but he isn't taking the initiative to see me again. Without me asking, he always tells me his plans for the weekend. To let me know that he isn't seeing anyone else or to let me know that he is busy????
I am certainly not waiting around for him to ask me out nor do I expect to be a priority in his life. Why is he staying in contact? I feel like I am being strung along until something better comes along. How do I make it clear to him that I am not looking for an email buddy and would like to see him more often?

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Registered: 04-10-2010
Thu, 07-01-2010 - 3:19am

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2008
Thu, 07-01-2010 - 7:52am

Your story reminded me of a guy I dated for awhile who used to send me emails, sometimes daily, while he was going through a business downsizing crisis, about what was going on with the business.

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Registered: 08-09-2002
Thu, 07-01-2010 - 10:57am

If you are looking for something more than a friendship, I would dump him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-01-2006
Thu, 07-01-2010 - 11:29am

Have you tried telling him you want more, and not just an email buddy? How would he know unless you say something?


I think he's just being nice and wants to be friends. Personally, I see nothing wrong with having friends.



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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2003
Fri, 07-02-2010 - 12:07am
I would love to hear a guy's perspective on this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2003
Fri, 07-02-2010 - 12:14am

How do I make it clear to him that I am interested?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2003
Fri, 07-02-2010 - 12:17am

I don't see it as a control issue with him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2003
Fri, 07-02-2010 - 12:20am

I feel that it is too early to have a "talk" with him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 07-02-2010 - 7:22am

You need to ask him these questions. Why not just come right out and ask him what he's doing Saturday night. Why don't we go out someplace. You say he's inexperienced, so it could be that he's just to shy. He's not a mind reader and can't know what you're meaning.


I see nothing wrong with you picking up the phone and calling him. Suggest going to the fireworks together. Get to know each other better, and actually talk in person about what you both want.



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a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”
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Registered: 12-27-2008
Sat, 07-03-2010 - 5:22pm

It's tough to answer your question without knowing more.

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