Taken for a ride...and more

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Registered: 08-21-2008
Taken for a ride...and more
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 1:26pm

So here I am holding my head trying to understand this....


Three months ago I befriended a friend of a friend on facebook...I know, I know....I never usually do that but this time HAH I thought the guy was gonna be different. We posted and messaged each other for about 3 weeks, had very similar

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Registered: 08-21-2008
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 1:32pm

I forgot to post our ages....I'm 46 and he is 42. You would think I would have dealt with enough of men to have learned by now...but this time I finally -- get it...they are all out for themselves now matter who nice they seem and what they tell you

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 9:21pm
So? What everyone is supposed to stop their life because of you? He is not to have any other friends? Where did you get this idea?
Did it occur to you that he was embarrassed by the ill fortune of the first visit and moving to a new place he met new people. Has it occurred to you that perhaps you were giving mixed signals?

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 7:55am

From what I gather

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Registered: 04-10-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 2:26pm

So, you took a chance on a guy you only knew from the internet and phone for a short time.

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 5:31pm

I can't believe you are shy of 50 and you

Denise

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Registered: 12-24-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 1:23pm

Sorry, I have to be harsh here.....What is wrong with WOMAN today!!!!!!!!


I have YET to hear of a good outcome of relationship that are started on FB, MySpace or any other social network. I have no idea how anyone can start one that way...what the heck ever happend to meeting someone for the FIRST time in person???? You need chemistry...that is where Pheramones come in ( I am sure I spelled that wrong) All this damn texting and emailing is just AWFUL in the beginnning stages of a relationship and honestly those who are in there 30s, 40s and older should know better....we grew up without all this stupid crap.


What I do not understand is why you didnt stay in a hotel. I would NEVER NEVER NEVER stay in a man's home who I never really meet before. I dont care how you knew him. This is soooooo dangerous and how woman end up missing and dead. At your age, you should know better


Sooo many red flags...the last minute cancel of a "villa", walking in and seeing NO couch as promised...NO AC.....Why would you buy his dog food or gas for a guy you do not know. Sorry but I do not care how many times you speak to someone on the phone.....you do not know him.


The two of you didnt talk of an official relationship and he moved on to someone else...okay...chalk this up as another one of those life experiences.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 2:16pm
Honestly the heartache you're experiencing now could have been avoided if you had made different choices. I hope you've learned from this experience - If so, then it doesn't have to be tragic. You can move forward knowing more than you did before.
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Registered: 02-14-2007
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 7:35pm

You arenot being harsh - sometimes I want to be as harsh as you - but most of

Denise

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Registered: 12-27-2008
Sat, 07-31-2010 - 10:31am

I don't think the lesson is to delete your Facebook page.

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Registered: 08-21-2008
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 11:41am

OK enough time has passed so I'm over the initial anger....


I think my frustration IS the amount of anything goes these days....firstly I know of SEVERAL people who have met through dating sites that are now married!!! so don't jump at me for that - secondly, I did meet him in person FIRST and there was a lot fo chemistry between us.


I think it is too easy to hide too much and that is the lesson I have learned here....it would great if you could say to

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