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Registered: 08-27-2005
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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 12:20am

seems like these days I am going to be on this board very often. lol. Oh gosh. Why do guys love to send text messages instead of talking on the phone? Can you tell me?

k2002
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
In reply to: k2002
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 1:12am

I've only ever asked one man this question and his answer was the he's too insecure to pick up the phone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: k2002
Wed, 06-01-2011 - 11:06am

It's easy and convenient and there's no pressure to respond right away

None of these things are good qualities in communication when you're dating though

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: k2002
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 7:55am
On the average, men typically don't use the phone a whole lot, and with the ease and non-chalance of texting, that seems to be a mire preferred method of communication for most people under 30, especially in this country.

That all being said...

If you'd prefer for him to pick up the phone and actually call you, you can choose one of two paths:
1. Give him the silent treatment, hoping he miraculously "gets" that he should be calling you and in the meantime build a case against him as to why he's not living up to standards and grow ever-more resentful (I don't recommend this approach)
2. Tell him you prefer to talk on the phone and then see what he does about that.

If after telling him he still insists on texting you up instead of reaching out mostly over the phone, you probably have a really good basis to seek companionship elsewhere.

At that point, it's less about the texting and more about him giving importance to addressing things that are important to a relationship, especially after being given fair notice.

Good luck!

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Registered: 12-05-2010
In reply to: k2002
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 10:37am

K2002-

When you talk by phone, both you and the other person have to be there, ready and available to talk, at the same time. With many people having busy schedules, that isn't always easy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
In reply to: k2002
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 6:26pm

thanks for your comments guys.

k2002