Thank you to the guys' advice
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|Mon, 02-22-2010 - 11:35am|
A month or so ago I posted looking for advice from the guys' point of view. The information I got, on some level I already knew, but needed to hear it from someone else. Especially the guys. One of the messages I received was that H will never change because I am allowing him to live comfortably and allowing him to treat me poorly. They were right. Last night we had another conversation, or as usual, I am the who talked. I told him I was done, no more. I deserve to be with someone who wants to love me and wants to show it. His response "If that's what you want." Instead of back pedaling, or begging him to love me, I agreed with him. Told him that it was obviously what he wanted because he wasn't willing to change or treat me differently. He won't fight for the relationship. I feel somewhat relaxed about my decision. The ball is in his court now. I have no illusions about the future, he won't change. This is not a threat to get him to change. We are done.
Thank you to any of the guys who got me to see the light. I am responsible for the relationship and the way it currently is. If I don't stand up for myself, no one will.