Understanding Men's language. Do I need a special dictionary

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Registered: 11-24-2012
Understanding Men's language. Do I need a special dictionary
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Sun, 01-06-2013 - 6:33am

I'm starting to wonder if men speak a different language really. I have to almost decipher a code to understand or at least it seems that way. I'm seeing this guy, really we are getting to know each other. He's been married twice and I divorced a couple years ago after 19 years of marriage. We taken wknd trips together and we enjoy each others company, and conversations. The other day we were talking and he said I'm enjoying getting to know you. You are a very wonderful woman and I've grown very fond og you. What the heck does that mean?

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Registered: 12-05-2010

 

Here's the take of a 49 year old married man: He's not ready to say "I love you'', but he thinks things are progressing nicely between the two of you. If you've been dating say 2-5 months, view his comments positively.

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Registered: 10-16-2006

I had to respond because there is a book entitled "Why Don't You Understand? A Gender Relationship Dictionary" that is really written like a dictionary. You might also enjoy "Getting Naked Again" by Judith Sills.

But I agree, it sounds promising. And only time will really tell. You don't really say what you are looking for with this man. Maybe you don't want to get married again youself, or maybe you do. I do think the genders speak different languages. One very striking difference to me is how direct men are compared to women. I mostly appreciate this quality but sometimes not.

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Registered: 11-24-2012
Thxs I really care for him and where it will take us I don't know. I'd like to be in a long lasting relationship again one day. But why use the word fond?
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Registered: 11-24-2012
Thx you I think men are sometimes just as afraid as women when they have had failed marriages/relationships??
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Registered: 11-28-1999

I wouldn't over-analyze this.  To me, "fond" means that he likes you but isn't ready to say he loves you--is it any different from saying that you care for him?

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Registered: 11-24-2012
No it really isn't. It's just to me an unusual word to use, but nothing wrong with it for sure. I'm just curious because he really wanted me to tell him how I felt.
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Registered: 08-08-2012

"Fond" sounds like he likes you and seems to have growing feelings for you. If you are "fond" of him too and want to see where the relationship can go, just tell him so.

He, so far, sounds like a keeper. Do let us know how this plays out.

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Registered: 11-24-2012
Thxs I did tell him how I felt which was more deeper than fond. I hope Cupid works for me on this one. Do men really want to know how we feel about them because he seemed to have wanted me to be very clear?
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Registered: 01-25-2010

  Hi Welcome to the board.

       Men tend to be more direct in their speech.  I suggest you take it at face value.  Sometimes people project more into a relationship than the other is ready for.  He seems to have set a boundary.

chaika

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Registered: 11-24-2012
Maybe he doesn't want a relationship I guess that's the boundary

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