Understanding Men's language. Do I need a special dictionary

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Registered: 11-24-2012
Understanding Men's language. Do I need a special dictionary
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Sun, 01-06-2013 - 6:33am

I'm starting to wonder if men speak a different language really. I have to almost decipher a code to understand or at least it seems that way. I'm seeing this guy, really we are getting to know each other. He's been married twice and I divorced a couple years ago after 19 years of marriage. We taken wknd trips together and we enjoy each others company, and conversations. The other day we were talking and he said I'm enjoying getting to know you. You are a very wonderful woman and I've grown very fond og you. What the heck does that mean?

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Registered: 12-05-2006

I think your struggle is not with men's words but a rush to know men's full intentions and/or inner thinking which, we all must wait until the speaker provides as we will not 'hear' it a minute earlier than they are willing to share it.

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Registered: 11-24-2012
Well Glenn 1962 you've read me just right.. LOL
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Registered: 08-08-2012

Ok so you told him how you felt and how did he react?

Did he say he has a boundry? Why do you now think he doesn't want a relationship?

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Registered: 11-24-2012
Happy fifties - he acted surprised and therefore wanted to know why or what about him attracts me, and He said he really cares for me and would like for our relationship to grow to see where it takes us. We will see?? I think he does want a relationship but is cautious as I am also. No one wants to make mistakes at our age- both 46
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Registered: 07-23-2012

Maybe checking out this information would help:

Decoding Ur Guy's SRSLY Vague Text Messages
http://www.ivillage.com/guy-text-decoder/4-a-514023

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Registered: 12-03-2011
You found men that are direct where are they because I'm having the opposite problem on my end.
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Registered: 08-09-2012

I think "fond" means that he likes you a lot; that the idea of you is growing on him, but he's not ready to tell you that he loves you or wants something uber-serious right at this time. If you let things take a natural course and allow his feelings for you to develop in their own time, he is amenable to moving in the direction in which you want things to go.

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Registered: 11-24-2012
I would like things to develop naturally
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Registered: 11-24-2012
I would say most men have problems communicating, which makes it seem like they are indirect
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Registered: 08-09-2012

brieat32 wrote:
I would say most men have problems communicating, which makes it seem like they are indirect

I disagree... I think men communicate exactly what they want to--sometimes, women refuse to accept what is being conveyed to them because they want what they want, which is something that he and/or his behavior is telling you he's not willing to provide.  Many guys do not want to have to break it all the way down and hurt the girls' feelings and make her cry, so they avoid that like the plague.

Many women will ignore red flags and their own intuition in the quest to be part of a couple with a particular man.