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|Sun, 04-14-2013 - 4:17am|
The last thing I want to do is read too much into this, but I can't help but find bits and pieces of it strikingly unusual..
So I am currently a volunteer for local government. Upon being admitted to graduate school, I realized that I wanted to do my research project in this particular city. I took it upon myself to meet with one of the higher ups (whom I find VERY attractive) in expressing interest to be involved in a future project. He suggested we go have a lunch meeting.
Upon meeting up with him, he suggested that we go to his place shortly after so he can show me some things that were relevant to my research interests (at the moment I was taken back when he said that. considering that he lived within walking distance of city hall, it was completely justifiable).
Lunch went well and overall I felt very comfortable with him. We walk to his place where he gives me a nice tour of his backyard, and eventually a tour of his house (including his own bedroom-there was artwork in there that he wanted to show me). We spent the next hour and a half discussing various subjects within my research interests in his dining room.
I told my sister about the meeting and she said it sounded more like a date if anything. She seemed concerned at most. I asked a couple of friends about it and they found it odd that he took me to his place. I generally felt pretty comfortable, but once again was taken back when he got up at one point to grab something, and as he passed me brushed his hand on my shoulder.
The man is 10 years older than me (divorced); given my age (27) and my horrible experiences with guys (I will not use the term men) my own age and younger, it was nice to have a well natured conversation with a very articulate man.
I try to justify him taking me to his house merely from a convenience standpoint- I figure that if he is within close proximity of his job, then it would be conducive of a comfortable meeting spot after lunch? I have a strong inclination that he would not do this with the other volunteers. I try to place it in the context with other employees and bosses- would I feel comfortable if it were somebody I was NOT attracted to?
Anyway, I would just like a second opinion. Is this standard protocol for lunch meetings?! Is this something you would do with one of your bosses or any of the higher ups at your workplace or volunteer position? Ahh, I just need anyone's input!