update on DH with midlife crisis

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Registered: 04-27-2008
update on DH with midlife crisis
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Thu, 08-26-2010 - 1:56pm

Hello,


I wrote in about 2 weeks ago regarding my husband and comments and actions in the past 4 months that make me think he was unhappy in the marriage and aggressive behavior. Well, things have escalated from that point, and I am praying that this is the wake up call that he needs.


My husband has been stonewalling me since I called him out on these behaviors over a week ago and he accused me of attacking his character. He claims he sees nothing wrong with his behavior and that I am always attacking him on how the way he treats me and how nothing is ever good enough for me. On Monday night, he told me it was time for me to move out and screamed at me to get the F out. I asked him to think about this logically, because he has no tolerance lately, the guys at work have been acting strangely towards him, and he is much more aggressive. I asked if it could be the testosterone shots, and he refused to talk to me after that. This was on Monday night.


I went to bed and didn't leave because it was late. I just left his office and went to bed. My husband came in about 30 minutes later and I held my breath to see what he would do. He was pissed and turned the light on and did a couple of things and then lay down and didn't say anything.


Tuesday morning, he dialed into our wireless router and blocked me from getting onto the internet because I work from home, so I had to reset the router to be able to bypass and get in so I could work.

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Registered: 04-27-2008
Thu, 08-26-2010 - 2:57pm
By the way, I agree with everyone that I didn't present things well with my husband and my have some insecurity issues. I am working on those with him, but I am really concerned about him. I don't want to be the cause of his unhappiness and don't know how to help him if he hides things from me. I just want him to be happy and well adjusted. We are supposed to be having fun right now together.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 3:44pm
Maybe this beating he got is the wake up call he needed to see that he has severe anger and depression issues, and he will now see how badly he needs medical treatment and therapy. GOOD LUCK
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Registered: 04-27-2008
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 1:50pm

I agree