update to "is this uncommon"

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Registered: 09-21-2006
update to "is this uncommon"
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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 3:16pm

You guys gave me great input on my original post about the 35 y.o. male that I am seeing. I had mentioned his longest relationship was one year. Well we have been seeing each other for over a month now. This guy is coming on very strong emotionally. He is telling me he has never connected with anyone like he does me and while I agree we have some very in depth convesations, I seem to be very open and always end the conversation feeling like he is "feeling me out" because he never really opens up and I have to staright out ask everything I want to know about him. He is still leaving the intimate relations up to me. But he has mentioned he is a one woman man and how he is so in "awww" of us; yet, he is still on the dating site we met on. I am off the site and I have no prob with him remaining on there since its just been a month but you would think if

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2005
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 3:31pm

So he told you that you're the love of his life? Because at first you'd said he said he felt a very strong emotional connection with you, which is nice, but on its face doesn't mean a whole lot. But to say you're the love of his life is pretty strong. But if he's still on the dating site, I'd say he's either full of it or has a very short attention span.

I've been there with men who come on really strong in their words but don't show it in their actions. I honestly don't know what's going on with them, if they're playing a game and messing with me, or they think they mean it but have no idea how to follow through on those words with their actions.

Something doesn't sound quite right, and it's either that he's mixed up or he's playing games with you. As far as how to figure out if he means what he says, I guess time will tell. There's also a very easy way to solve this. Take the direct approach and ask him why he's still on a dating site if he's found the love of his life.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 3:52pm

Did he actually

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 5:07pm
His exact words were I think Im falling in love with you. He did not say exactly I am the love of his life but he has said he is so comfortable with me and that I may be the one he has been looking for along with many other phrases that i interpret as the love of my life. Truly I think he is wanting and wishing. Its too soon to know something of this serious nature. Time will tell...but I feel uneasy.
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Registered: 07-21-2006
Fri, 09-17-2010 - 3:45pm

I'd say go with your gut. If you enjoy him, continue to see him, but be wary of that mushy love stuff after 1 month. I have found in my life that those quick to say "I love you" tend to be quick to say goodbye, unfortunately. But I do wish you the best and hope it works out well!
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Registered: 12-28-2007
Sat, 09-18-2010 - 9:17pm

I would ask him about the dating site....the next time he told me he was so in love with me...I would lead into the

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