What is up?

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Registered: 01-12-2008
What is up?
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 5:30pm


Alright coles not version of my story. I am not really even sure if I am even confused but more of a venting session.

The guy, I have known for a long time, we worked together and our crew of friends still hang out, know each other.

We had an incident a couple of years ago, that should have been my first warning sign. Messing around on his gf while she was away, should have known than right?

A couple of years had passed since that moment in time, thought he had matured and or maybe hoped that he matured. Anyway we started hanging out again recently, he was now single. So we were partying over the long weekend and one thing led to another, I was comfortable with cuddling, he wanted more. Anyway, "it" happened, I used the term loosely because he could not keep it up, in fact he went limp. He grumbled that he was not stimulated enough, than added maybe the booze.

After the fact, we were pretty neutral with each other. We did not talk about because I figured he already kind felt bad about it as it was. Anyway, since I know this guy pretty well, I started to have a bad feeling (let me tell you, women know this feeling well) Needless to say when he left with our friends for a hike, I was hanging about came across his blackberry. I found out that he was texting his ex gf explict sex comments, in fact assigning a date for their encounter. When does he send those messages? a few hours after we had hooked up.

I do realize that snooping is bad but I do know this guy and what he is capable of. Bonus of being friends with a guy, in the end I did not speak to him for the rest of the day, refused to sit near him & further barely said goodbye. I have cut off all contact and personally I think he is a pig.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
In reply to: sunnybelle76
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 5:36pm

Sunnybelle, I'm not sure I understand why you're upset. I can't see that he's done anything wrong. It's not like you and he were an item.

From what I understand, the two of you simply decided to shag each other at a party. He's still free to text whoever he wants.