What do men really want?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
What do men really want?
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Wed, 09-01-2010 - 11:40pm

Should women give up on ever finding true love and a happy lasting relationship? It seems that men aren't looking for the same thing. I read post after post of men that are unfaithful liars that I'm beginning to think that it's pointless to search for a needle in a haystack (aka a man looking for something real).


I would really like to know if the whole notion of marriage and happily ever after is something that just women believe in. Are men really looking for sex with multiple partners for life? Do they plan to get married and have women on the side? What is it that men are really thinking when they get into a "committed" relationship and continuously lie, cheat and betray the women that love them. It is so prevalent it seems like monogamy is not a real option.


As I move on from my latest betrayal, I want to know what to expect so that I'm not another victim of being the only one married in my marriage or the only committed one in my committed relationship. I'm venting here so that I don't take it out on the lying bastard that keeps calling to tell me how much he loves me.


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Registered: 03-08-2004
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 7:23am

Not all men cheat, only some do and they're not the only ones who cheat, lie and betray.......some women do it to!

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Thu, 09-02-2010 - 9:19am

What do men really want? I think they're probably pretty simple.


I think the right one would want exactly YOU.

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Thu, 09-02-2010 - 9:36am

I think it has a lot to do with the board too


Dating boards are predisposed to problems, questions about relationships, issues with communication. Most of the boards are geared towards solving problems.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 2:13pm

I think that many people put barriers between themselves and happiness. If you are not happy within your self then how can you be truly available to be happy.

>>>I would really like to know if the whole notion of marriage and happily ever after is something that just women believe in. Are men really looking for sex with multiple partners for life? Do they plan to get married and have women on the side? What is it that men are really thinking when they get into a "committed" relationship and continuously lie, cheat and betray the women that love them. It is so prevalent it seems like monogamy is not a real option.<<<<
Monogamy is a lie. But there is no reason to lie.
There is a time when one must truly become adult. That means accepting reality. The lying,hypocrisy,are the killers. many people live in quiet desperation and hidden anger. They feel trapped in situations where a few years ago they were happy. Right now this current society is pressuring people to have serial monogamous relationships. That "pressure" is what many people feel
and are frustrated by it.
Not that long ago women were more repressed sexually. Today many women are frustrated by the lack of sex and intimacy. They get married find out that the dating was a lie and :he has more interest in the game or the computer. Mismatches. In other times they would have not choice but to stay married(divorce was not a legal option)she would have gentleman callers(Upper class Victorian society did not assume sexual interest but intellectual) So she had more options she had friends and it it was sex then there was always those of lower social order who had a lot to lose (life,liberty,gonads) if they were found out!!
Today, there is less and more.
What many men want others do not! Some are into their work, some are into their kids,some are into their hobbies,some like a lot of sex,others could care less;so there is no "what (all) men want"
Like there is no; what all women want. Does not exist! It is what does that individual want.

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