What do MEN want?????

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What do MEN want?????
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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 3:27pm

I'll try to keep this as short as I can, I am 28 and divorced.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 1:30am

As someone else said, it doesn't sound like this man is emotionally available. It seems to be that your relationship goals are different. If he wants a friends with benefits/casual relationship and you want more, it is best to withdraw from him then, BEFORE YOU GET HURT. You have divorced six months ago so MAYBE it might be a little too early for you to start dating. I say MAYBE cause I don't know the details of your situation. Were u separated a long time before you got your divorce? If you were, then You MIGHT feel as if you are ready to date again. Everyone's situation regarding readiness after you have left a marriage is different. He says his son comes first because of a previous experience. so of course, he has to be cautious. In the meantime, since as he is not looking for a relationship, don't make out with him and do suggestive things. Just keep it as friends. Next

k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 1:20am

true true. this sounds like friends with benefits to me.

k2002
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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 6:06pm

Child must come first - not you - I respect him - probably not a good fit for you right now......I wouldn't waste my time right now....give him some air

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Registered: 03-20-2012
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 12:52am
Maybe when his son is older he will open up :) Good luck!
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 6:31pm

Friends with benefits it sounds like what he wants.

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Registered: 12-22-2011
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 1:59pm

I am not wanting him to change his priorites.

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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 8:31pm

Time to start dating and doing the fun things you have missed during the marriage years.

dragowoman

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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 4:31pm

You are confusing two questions here. Do you want to know what men want or what he wants? If you want to know what he wants, he already told you that. His son is his priority. That's as it should be. Imagine that the reverse were true, that he was a woman

dablacksox


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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 4:23pm

Instead of asking who do this person whats, why not ask what YOU want?

If I were you, as a single mother of a young child, I would rather have a good friend (yes, men and women can be friends) living right next door who is happy to give each other support and game to do some fun things togehter, than trying to date him and run the risk if it doesn't work out, you have an ex living next door - which can be quite stressful.

You are only six months out of your marriage.