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|Wed, 06-16-2010 - 8:01pm|
I've been working with a guy, online, we're on a project together, but we both work for ourselves and are collaborating on something for the last 3 or 4 months. We also have mutual friends and this is how we got started working together on this project. At first, he did seem kind of interested but then again, such things are hard to tell online, over the phone, and in email. So unless a guy clearly tells me bluntly that he likes me, or asks me out, I try not to make any assumptions. But I like him, more and more... but what he does that's strange is that he blows hot and cold.
He's there and involved and complimenting me, telling me things he won't tell others ("I trust you, not anyone else") open and warm, but then suddenly, cold and distant... and while I try to not let that bother me, it does.
So at times I think it best to perhaps stop working with him, let someone else on the team fill in and deal with him... I won't come out and tell him how I feel, because I've heard a million times a woman should never make the first move. But that he's so Jekyll and Hyde with me makes it difficult and even more so because it's not like I can ask him why, or how he feels. Because on top of all of this he is incredibly SHY and quiet overall.
And it's funny, we're both in our 40's, you'd think by now we'd know how to deal with these situations better... but if anyone here understands what's happening, and has any ideas of how to proceed, please share it with me.