What does he mean?!?

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What does he mean?!?
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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 9:15pm

I met a guy on an online dating site. After a few conversations on the phone and text messaging, he said what stands me out when compared to other girls is that the interest level between him and me is 70-30 where I am 70 and he is 30. With other girls, it's 60-40 where 60 is him and 40 is the other girl. He added that with me it seems like a partnership to him.

What exactly is he saying?

And then he goes like .. I can meet with you whenever you want.

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Tue, 01-17-2012 - 3:10am

It sounds to me like he thinks you're far more interested in him than he is in you.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 10:41am

That sounds pretty insulting to me--he is basically saying that you like him a lot more than he likes you--what kind of partnership is that?

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Tue, 01-17-2012 - 1:12pm

I agree with you all. It was insulting for me to hear that but I did not say anything to him. My interest level in him has gone down to a large extent. I have backed-off and I will continue to do so until his interest level steps up (that is, if he is really interested).

I'm just responding to his text messages...and that too with little or no excitement. He is not calling and I don't intend to initiate communication with him in any form whatsoever.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 2:28pm

Do "face" time and meet up.

chaika

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 3:09pm

okay, I took it the other way, that he is 70% interested in you, but thinks you are 30% interested in him. Either way, it is an odd way of looking at it. If you liked him and were interested, you should go ahead and meet him, and ignore his numbers game. Maybe he is an engineer and very analytical

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 3:18pm

I agree that is pretty insulting. I'd respond with "well amazingly this has become 0-30, enjoy your life"

I wouldn't bother with someone who feels the need to tell you how you measure up to other girls from a dating site (especially when it's not in your favor). Big hint: This is why he hasn't struck gold yet.

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Tue, 01-17-2012 - 4:03pm

I feel this guy (let's call him guy1) is immature. Or maybe, he is the type that likes it when the girl is more into him as it boosts his ego. But then, if that's the case, then he needs to step up.

There's another guy (let's call him guy2) that I am talking to. We've met twice and I was supposed to meet him a 3rd time. When guy1 asked me if I was talking/seeing/dating someone, I was honest and told him that I'll be meeting guy2 for lunch and it's our 3rd meeting.

To this, guy1 replied -- "ok, we will date when you are no longer dating guy2" ...?!?

I mean, I'm not *officially* dating guy2. We are still trying to get to know each other.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 4:27pm

Boy # 1 might think that "dating" implies exclusivity.

chaika

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Tue, 01-17-2012 - 6:26pm
true.blue.strine wrote:

It sounds to me like he thinks you're far more interested in him than he is in you.

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 10:26am

G1 doesn;t want to meet you if you are dating G2? Byw bye G1!!!