What does he mean?

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Registered: 04-11-2003
What does he mean?
Sun, 07-29-2012 - 8:46pm

After the first date, the guy texts you and asks "Can I date you?"

What does this mean?

- Is he just making sure of my interest in him

- Is he asking me to be his girlfriend

- Is he looking to pursue me seriously

- Is he looking a faster way to get into my pants


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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 07-31-2012 - 5:31am

SK, you really take analysis to a whole new level LOL.   I suggest you take things at face value.   Answer his response with a yes or a not depending on whether or not you want another date.

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Registered: 04-17-2012
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 1:46am

Admittedly the phrasing is weird.


If he said, Can we go on another date? that would make sense.


Can I date you? is like he is looking for some certainty or reassurance before continuing.. which usually, to me, is a sign of either clingy insecurity, or a guy who wants the emotional nutrition of knowing women want him (these guys, however, often need more than one woman to want them to fill their need).

Either way, it's a littlle oddly worded.

I'd have texted back "What do you mean?"

If he can't answer that one clearly, the guys got some ish.