What does he mean/deciphering guy behaviour

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Registered: 02-03-2011
What does he mean/deciphering guy behaviour
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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 3:26am

I was working with a guy for about a month in a swanky restaurant/bar. He was super sweet and made me feel comfortable and we had a flirtatious banter and teasing. I went over to his house one night and in conversation mentioned dating a guy back home. He tried to play it off as cool but looked completely hurt. This was just after I quit the restaurant.
Fast forward... I sent my friend a text mssg but accidentally to him (there names differ by only one letter). He said that he thought I must have the wrong person and without thinking I said obviously (which I meant that "ha ha, I was obviously a dork" but didn't actually ). And now, I can see that it could've been taken as a bitchy thing to say. He seemed confused and said"well nice talk then..." and that was all.
Fast forward to the next week, I sent him a frantic text asking if he knew of a mechanic to fix my car pronto (b/c I am new to the city). No response. About 4-5 days later I sent him a funny text about "hey, we should go for that drink sometime b/c I have a really funny story 4 u." Again nothing.
This week will be almost 2 weeks since I've texted him, vice versa, and I saw him one time between his house and texting at the restaurant and everything appeared good and normal. So, what's going on? We tease each other about my shopping and he leaves for a major trip in 2 weeks. I really wanted to give him a thoughtful gift for the trip long ago before the text mssg confusion. Can I still give it to him? I could leave it with someone at the restaurant. What should I do and how do I figure things out.
I think I really like him and am no longer dating the other guy long distance (he's out of the equation).

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Registered: 12-22-2007

I've got two guesses.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

I agree with true.blue. I don't think you two are gelling but he's really not that interested. Don't bother with the gift, my honest guess is that he wouldn't really want it and it would be awkward.

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Registered: 02-03-2011
Okay, so what do I do now?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

Forget about him and look for other guys! :)