What. The. Eff.

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What. The. Eff.
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 6:13pm

BACKSTORY: I have this friend, we'll call him "Johnny." I've known Johnny since 2001, when we went to high school together. After graduation, we didn't see each other for six or seven years.

Enter social media.

In autumn of 2008, we reconnected via Facebook/Twitter, etc and totally hit it off. I joked to my friends that he was "My Internet Boyfriend," because we were always keeping in touch online, that we had a "When Harry Met Sally" kind of relationship that was bound to spill into a romance. However, every time we'd hang out in real life, I wouldn't get ANY sense of romantic interest from him beyond friendship.

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Mon, 11-08-2010 - 8:25pm

I don't know that I would confront him exactly, but I definitely think you need to have a conversation with him (up to you of course). I find these sorts of conversations incredibly difficult, but perhaps it could go along the lines of, "Johnny, when I came to visit you, I was thinking that we were connecting...did I read that wrong?" If he says, "Yes, you read it wrong, it was just a drunken night," then you have your answer. It would be in your best interest to taper off or end contact (at least for a while) so that you don't have to hear about girls he has crushes on (who needs that?).

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Mon, 11-08-2010 - 10:20pm

Hi Annabelq,

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Tue, 11-09-2010 - 3:11am

I think that when a guy periodically shows interest but then keeps backing off from it, it means that he is somewhat interested