What happened? Out of the blue! HELP
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|Sat, 04-03-2010 - 7:57pm|
T and I have been together for about 1 1/2 years. We lived together for the past year, until this January when we moved him down to Texas (from Pennsylvania) for grad school. We made definite plans for me to finish my last semester at college and then move in with him. All of my belongings are already there. My grandparents live in the same town, and he hangs out with them pretty often. Despite being long-distance, everything has been going very well. I went to visit him for a week at the beginning of March, and everything was great then. He was so happy to see me, spend time with me. Everything was completely normal between us. We even started (casually) talking about perhaps buying a house in the near future, if we decide to stay in Texas for a few years. About 2 weeks after I came back from my visit to Texas (which was about 2 weeks ago), he suddenly became very distant. He talked less about "us" and more about him. He didn't say he missed me anymore. He didn't want to Skype very much anymore, and when we did, he didn't have much to say most of the time. Occasionally, he seemed like he was in a better mood and was more like his 'normal' self, but for the most part, he was his new, distant, not-in-a-good-mood self.
Over the past 2 weeks or so, it gradually got worse until a few days ago, I finally asked him what's going on. (I know he hasn't found someone else... he would NEVER do that, and we agreed a long time ago that if one of us ever thought about being with someone else, we would break up before starting a new relationship). He just says "I don't know". He's NOT one to talk about 'feelings' and stuff like that... when pressed, he just clams up and becomes uncommunicative.
I finally asked him if he was thinking that he doesn't want me to move in with him, and he said he's not sure. I was shocked and devastated of course, and I asked him how that could be, since we had made plans for me moving in there (and all of my belongings are there!). He said he didn't expect anything to change. Well, what's changed? He says he's not sure. Says that he doesn't think that his feelings for ME have changed, but that his feelings about our relationship have changed...he thinks. ???
This is SOOOOO not like him.