what is my guy bestfriend doing? is he in love with me too?

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Registered: 07-12-2011
what is my guy bestfriend doing? is he in love with me too?
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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 1:23pm

I have known my "male" best friend for about 7 years, we became closer and more best of friends for about a year now when he went off to college in another state, we kept in touch every now & then via skype/facebook/text/calls..months later, he finally came back to our hometown for school vacation for 2 months. i picked him up from the airport and ever since we have seen eachother literally everyday, if not, every other day. ( a part i left out, i have a 2 year old child with a previous relationship) my best friend loves my child so much. he calls himself the father (i told him hes the god father), he post pics of the baby on his facebook page all the time, claims himself as the childs father to all his friends, ask about him all the time. my child loves him the exact same, they have so much fun together, buys him things.. he picks him up and babysits him all the time. (my childs birth father isnt in his life on a regular.) anyways...back to the story. we have the weirdest friendship ever. we tell each other "i love you" and "i miss you" in texts randomly..or random mornings, i will wake up to a "i love you or i miss you and the baby" from him. i tell him i love him back..and i do. we make jokes about being "future husband and wife...i feel like i am falling deeper and madly in love with him..all the signs are there and everythign about him i want in a man. hes very tall, handsome, athletic football player, great dresser personality, sweet. i am even close to his mother as he is with mine. i dont know if he knows how i feel about him bc i dont really show it..but i feel the jealousy with other girls that like him and that he talks to as friends. hes the same way with me, asks about my guy friends that i talk too, gets mad if i dont tell him. anyways, more to the story..we hang out every other day like i said.. the mall, out to eat, my house, his house, movie nights, going to the gym together, family parties, bbqs, holiday events..we are always together. my family started saying we make a cute couple and tells me im in love and he likes me bc were always together. i blush and say no...friends of friends are asking us, if were more than friends, we both say, "were just bestfriends" well this is the part where it gets crazy. were at my house one night, watching a movie cuddled on my love seat couch. were sitting face to face, with both our legs on the couch touching eachother (this is normal, we always sit close like this) but this time.. he started slowly gently touching my legs up and down..getting closer and closer to my vagina. slowly, to see how i would react..i dont stop him, he finally touches..i touch his arms..he keeps going. he tries taking off my pants..i help him. he starts touching me down there.. then out of nowhere he gives me oral s*x..then we had s*x, the best s*x ive ever had in my life. i swear...the next day was awkward he kept his distance, it was kind of weird bc we never took our friendship to that level. 2 days after, we met up.. i took him food to his house with the baby and we went to the mall together and went to my moms house and hung out over there all night. few days later, we were at my house again as usual hanging out/eating, out of nowhere he smiled and looked at me and told me he missed me and wanted a hug. he came and hugged me and caressed my legs... we went upstairs and he started touching...we had s*x again. after we were play fighting, having fun..touching and watching tv but then he was texting girls all night and im back confused..idk what to do or how to feel about us. i guess were just bestfriends that have s*x now?? idk. help!

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Registered: 04-21-2008

i guess were just bestfriends that have s*x now?? idk.

Unfortunately, yes, that's what it sounds like.

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Registered: 07-12-2011
I think its awkward and were both shy when it comes to discussing us as more than bestfriends....we just do things like were in a relationship never talk about it..seeems like were both waiting for one of us to say something first. Today is his last day in town before he goes back to school..he was with me and my son all night...and we didn't have sex. I'm so emotional because he's leaving
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Registered: 12-22-2007

Unfortunately, if you can't talk easily together about your feelings, this relationship is probably doomed anyway.

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Registered: 07-12-2011
No..I am hoping and thinking that were both scared of rejection from one another and not messing up our friendship we have had for so long by trying to turn ou friendship into a relationship is kinda scary. If I feel that way...he must feel that way too
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Registered: 12-22-2007

Sorry Kasi, it's all just excuses.