What should I think?

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Registered: 07-01-2010
What should I think?
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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 9:16pm

Excuse the blah blah....but need some insight from outside eyes...

Met a guy early summer last year and we talked very briefly. I had just gotten out of a realtionship and after talking to him realized I was not ready to date someone just yet, so I never called him back (I know crappy of me) Just didnt want to have to explain. I gave him a call a few months ago (around Sept)

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Sat, 01-28-2012 - 5:07pm

flgurl74, I feel your frustration.

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Fri, 01-27-2012 - 7:35pm

I hear what you are sayign about being hard when men dont talk. We had a kind of contingent meeting...werent sure if circumstances woulb allow it, so were playing it by ear. He was asked to help out with a family situation and we wound up not seeing each other afterall. I expressed to him how I felt about that...and apologized for seeming impatient , but it was just because I enjoy our time together. The next few days went by and nothing....then we talked again. Seemed things were okay...then the next thing you know Im being told again what a "bad place" he is in and how down on himself he really is. I tried to let him know That I care and was concerned and he said "dont worry about me..Ill be fine" now..........I asked him if he wanted me to just forget seeing him so he could deal with whatever it is and he told me he wouldn't answer that....it wasnt for him to decide he just didnt "like himself" right now....... its been days again with no word I have sent a couple of msgs to say hello..but nothing. This is making me really feel like Im a yoy-yo and really hate to just hate to let it go but.....I dont like dealing with someone who either cant talk to me or is being so down on themselves. So......just move on and if he calls....okay...and if not.....just let it go??

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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 11:05pm

It does make sense because I think as women when we are sad about something normally we will call our GFs and talk about it and also confide in our BF as well where a lot of men just clam up--they see having a problem as a sign of weakness and they also dont' deal very well w/ depression.