Whats up with him?

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Registered: 10-10-2011
Whats up with him?
Mon, 10-10-2011 - 5:01am

I've been seeing a man off and on over the last two years but we basically just have enhanced booty calls. He comes to me for advice and I know all about his family. We have a really great time together but only at his house. I dont feel like he uses me for sex but I dont know how much he actually cares about me. I want more, what should I do?

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 10-10-2011 - 6:27am

What's up with him?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-10-2011 - 1:53pm
I agree with true blue with the exception of expecting him to be truthful in sharing his feelings about you. If a Friend With Benefits puts me on the spot asking me how I feel about her, I would respond "yes of course I care for you" in order to continue our sexual relationship with no attachments.

You can just tell him that you enjoy your time together but you want a boyfriend. In order to do this then he needs to court you, i.e. ask you out on dates and not to sleep together anymore, at least for a while. Otherwise he is a FWB.
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Registered: 04-25-2011
Mon, 10-10-2011 - 6:49pm

What should you do? - make a decision in your life if you just want sex and fun or want a relationship that can grow.