Why did he do this to me...

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Registered: 07-18-2010
Why did he do this to me...
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 2:17am

or did I do this to myself?

My ex and I had recently gotten into contact about 6 months ago. We started chatting and hanging out from time to time -

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 9:24am

The phrase is "platonic" not "plutonic", in reference to the philosopher Plato rather than the planet. Even then, a platonic relationship doesn't mean "just friends"; it refers to a relationship between two people wherein they open one another's minds philosophically but the relationship itself does not contain the love (Eros) element. Just sayin'!

I agree with the other response. You knew what you were getting into. Just because you had different hopes and expectations for the way things would go doesn't make them realistic. Why did he do this to you? Because he was having mixed feelings and wanted to pursue both "relationships" that had the potential to make him feel good. He probably never thought of you as a long term prospect but had no problem leading you on. He doesn't exactly sound like a prize. Yes I do think you got played by him but you're also right when you said that you went against your better judgment.

Don't be too hard on yourself, have a good laugh over what an ass he is and leave that chapter of your life behind.

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 6:12am

Natasha, the question isn't "why did he do this to me?".