Why do guys do this?
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|Mon, 02-01-2010 - 12:18pm|
I was raised by a type A father to be decisive, to plan, to anticipate...so I know I'm not typical maybe. But why is it every guy I go out with is slow to make plans, waits til the last minute, and of course, if he has children, they come first.
I think this guy (who has half custody of two small boys) is into me, loves me a little already (a 2 month online relationship, but only 2 dates) but hasn't set a time for meeting #3 since we meet 8 days ago (an all day date, wonderful, AND he spent the night, also wonderful, soulful even). Like many of us today he has money problems also so his schedule is crazy as he takes odd jobs here and there. I have told him that his house, car, finances don't matter to me (they don't) but I think he is embarrassed for me to see his place, among other things. It's messy he says, plus he has a large dog. I don't care a fig, and have told him so). Early in our relationship he acted like we could meet anywhere but his house- he would mention going to movies and necking in the back- that's how status conscious he is maybe. His ex-wife is very status conscious so maybe that's it...
There is NO other woman in the picture as I've asked lots of questions about that and am satisfied he is honest that way.
He has said really mushy things to me but also "let's take this one day at a time" and "worried the long distance relationship will work against us" (he is only 80 miles away, wants a woman he can see 2x/week for "an hr." was how he put it! So maybe he just wants a sex partner! :) But he said he would work extra hard to make it work 'cause I was a wonderful soul. I should add there's a big age difference between us, but that doesn't seem an issue-yet...
Do guys wait and see if they still feel passion after a week (despite the endearing things they say)? Is he THAT hung up on finances, how his place looks, is it his schedule? I have read men like to be in ther driver's seat as far as "driving the relationship" at least in the beginning so I wait.....Me, I want to make at least a weekly date to keep the momentum going. Thanks!