Why do guys end up being distant and dishonest?
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|Mon, 11-26-2012 - 6:50pm|
Here is a summary of our brief dating history:
we met in person through mutual friends and texted/chatted and saw each other at group events a few times for about a month
begin sept - went out for drinks and we hooked up (had sex)
he immediately was asking if we were in a relationship and went on to say he likes me
I said it's too soon to discuss a relationship
(Later he said that he only asked because he thought that is what I thought)
A week later he takes me out on a date to a fairly nice restaurant
Another time that weekend we went again (no sex that time)
Later that week we went to dinner. He said he is cool hanging out.
So to me I'm fine with casual but I felt his previous words/date was a little mixed signal but was like whatever
We saw each other again and had a nice time.
Then he grew distance and I didn't hear from for a week.
I contacted him and we did see each other and hooked up again.
Then we went to a movie and he wasn't very talkative and I asked him and he said he wanted to move to a platonic relationship.
He booty calls me late one night about a week later.
I inquired about this platonic statement and he said he didn't know how to end it and just chose to ignore but said he's good and would hang out again.
Anyhow, I contacted him again and we had a text convo and he said he felt that I would become attached so it's best to end it. He said he is not attached, afraid of committment and I wasn't the only girl he was talking to. He had told me he wasn't having sex with anyone at the time he was with me when I asked him about it. Of course, how can I believe that! He said he was down to sex it up and liked hanging out with me but didn't want me to get too close. He said he likes me but doesn't see how to work anything out.
It really seemed he liked me was excited to see me before and then he got distance. So now I feel all he wanted as sex in the first place and he should have just said that instead of taking me out on a date. I don't get men. So they like a girl but only to a certain extent?