Why do I care about my looks so much?

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Registered: 12-14-2008
Why do I care about my looks so much?
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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 9:34am

Nobody knows just how insanely insecure I am about my looks.

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Registered: 08-09-2010
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 10:02am

Hi!

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Registered: 12-14-2008
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 1:18pm

The roommate comment should not have been taken so personally.

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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 1:29pm

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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 2:08pm

It's a good thing that you mentioned the anti-depressant part.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 6:38pm

Having modeled myself when I was a teenager, I can honestly say that if you are a professional model, your career is not helping your self-esteem. The worst self-esteem on the planet is found in professional models. It's a lifestyle that encourages you to obsess over your looks. The ex-roommate did you no favors by telling you that you had a childlike body - You know, that's one person's opinion. Who cares, screw her. I imagine she was jealous and resentful of you. Many people would find your body type attractive. So you weren't born with big curves, you know you're attractive. You can either hate parts of yourself and try to no avail to make them different (you cannot specifically grow boobs OR a booty, that's simply genetic), or you can accept that you're beautiful.

There are always going to be different body types that are attractive for different reasons. You were given this body for this lifetime, enjoy it! You do not have to change.

I strongly suggest reconsidering the modeling business and finding a therapist who is trained in body image issues (I have one myself for body dysmorphic disorder and she's awesome).

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 8:26pm
Hi I have very good news for you. Enjoy having a slim body. You can do so much and not have to worry. Big butt? Most men do not care!
Every time you look in the mirror say to yourself how sexy you are.
Write down erotic affirmations say then every day and night. In time you will have reprogrammed yourself and all these worries will go away.
Believe

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Wed, 08-18-2010 - 9:47am

First, you need to find a better therapist. One who you can open up with and discuss things freely. I know how hard it is, because I can't do it. I was seeing a therapist and I held some things back just because I can't talk to people like I would like to be able to. She was great and helped me in some ways, but no matter who I see, I will still hold back. That's just the way I am.


You're still young, and I hope you find someone that you can open up to and who can help you overcome this.


You are not immature just because you have a petite body and weigh under 100 pounds. It's all in the way that you carry yourself and act. I am now 49, and weigh 105 pounds, but up until 2008 I was 96 pounds and 5 feet 2 inches. No one mistook me for a young girl.



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Registered: 12-14-2008
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 11:39pm

Hi Everyone,


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Registered: 12-14-2008
Sun, 08-22-2010 - 3:23pm

Thank you soo much for your imput about Body Dysmorphic Disorder.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 11:32am
I am really glad you found that helpful - Sometimes just being able to put a name to the way you feel is a relief. Body dysmorphic disorder is pretty common... Especially in women who are actually very attractive. Let me know how your therapist responds, I'd be interested to know if she thinks this description fits you. It's a tough thing to cope with because it requires you to accept that what you feel about yourself, and reality, are two separate things.