Why do men drop clues when having affair?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Why do men drop clues when having affair?
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Tue, 01-15-2013 - 11:39am

I look back & now see so many blatant things my husband did or said ... that were dangerous to do/say if he didnt want to get caught.

Indeed, he didnt get caught for a long time - but now I recall some of the things.

Why do they drop the clues?

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Registered: 07-23-2012
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 12:54pm

Sweettartnacho,

You might get more answers if you post over on All Sides of an Affair here.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 4:27pm

Either he was dumb or he really wanted to get caught so you could throw him out & he wouldn't have to bother being the one to leave.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 4:28pm

Either he was dumb or he really wanted to get caught so you could throw him out & he wouldn't have to bother being the one to leave.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 01-16-2013 - 7:40pm

I would agree with Music. He just wanted to get caught or he just didnt care if he got caught. That makes the person seem very only one sided and only cares about his own needs. He went and found someone and had an affair and didnt care who found out.. Sounds a bit narcisstic but you would know better than me.. I was married and now divorced a narcisstic abusive man.. Everything was about him and he didnt care who he hurt and what damage he did .. It was like he purposely hurt people.. Well we got divorced and my ex is  now on to hurting other people.. and I am so glad I am out of that drama. and life is so  much better now..

It is almost as if its a poisen to keep in contact with these people and the poisen slowly kills your heart and soul.. No thanks..

Okay.. take care