Why Is He Like This? (m)
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|Sun, 04-13-2003 - 6:03pm|
fall. I became good friends w/ one of the guys upstairs.
He introduced me to his other roommates. As soon as I saw
his roommate (we'll call him Tim, hes now 21), I thought he
was the most attractive guy I've ever seen. Long story short:
we all became friends VERY quickly and during one night after
a few drinks, Tim came out and told everyone how much he liked
me. He & would hang out basically every single day and he
invited me out w/ him the following weekend to a party & that's
when we were were completely attached at the hip. Everyone
thought we were dating. We had 2 nights a few wks apart where
we ended up kissing and falling asleep together (no sex).
Things were going fabulous & as soon as things seemed to not
be able to be better, he started getting weird... pulling back,
acting a lil diff. around me, becoming different. That made me
pull back. During all this time I'd also become close friends w/
his other roommate & there was some sort of chemistry there but
I wasn't looking to act on it b/c Tim was who I'd been hanging
out w/. One week Tim just seemed real diff. & when he got around
other girls (that he's been friends w/ for a few yrs) he got
obnoxious around me.. I didn't understand what was going on
and I dec. after a week of him being distant, I was done w/ it.
My ex bf had been like that before we started dating & it was b/c
he was scared of being close to ppl and I didn't want to be w/
someone that couldn't handle being close to someone; I knew how
hard it was to be w/ someone like that. One night after many drinks,
his roommate and I ended up making out and Tim saw. He freaked out.
And that was our mistake.. we waited til that happ. to talk about
him and I. He chose THEN to tell me how much he liked me & how he
thought I did that just to make him jealous & how he wasn't hanging
out w/ other girls .. I chose then to ask why he'd been so diff.
lately. We had a huge argument that I won't get into.. but it didn't
go well. We all have the same friends & live in the same building so
we had to keep seeing e/o & we weren't able to be around e/o esp. if
it was a bar night.. anytime drinks were involved we'd always argue
w/ e/o - always started by him. We were civil but not really friends
for the next few mos. We had a month off for Christmas break & just
before that we started becoming friends again. When we came back from
that break it was like we were 2 new ppl. I thought the niceness and
getting along w/ e/o would end after a week but it's STILL like that.
I am SO pleased that we are able to be such good friends again. I don't
know if I've chgd but he def has. He's SO nice, so friendly, anytime I
need help w/ things, he's the first one to offer to help me, sometimes
he's a lil shy w/ conv. if it's just he and I but once I start talking
he's all smiles & will talk for a long time. Everything is good. I've
been under the impression that we are good being friends.. his roomie
& I've become very close too & I felt like Tim & I realized we're just
better off as friends.
However, I've noticed that anytime Tim's roommate is around me, Tim
doesn't like it. He'll make faces @ him.. if he goes to hug me or
something Tim will just stare at him or say something like "what are
you doing" The other day we all went to a bar again & I don't know
what the deal was but we were attached at the hip again. Not holding
hands and/or kissing at all.. but just running off by ourselves to
go do our own thing and hang out by ourselves and just kept hugging/
holding each other. If things at all start to "heat up" and we think
we'll kiss again, he usually pulls back. I know our friensd have
noticed this chg. too w/ he and I.
My question is why is he acting like this? More specifically, if
we're just friends & stuff, and supposedly doesn't care about any
time I spend (or have spent) w/ his roommate, why does he get so
obviously agitated around his roommate and I? I guess this would
make more sense to me if we had actually dated, but we didn't. And
HE was the one who chgd things bad when they were good b/w he and I.