Why men are better at dating

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Why men are better at dating
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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 9:39am

In the four or so years I've been around, I've seen a lot of women on this board asking questions with the subject "Confused" or "What is he thinking" and I admit I kind of roll my eyes a little bit because I know that the post is going to be a woman trying to figure out what a particular man wants.

Here's where men have the upper hand on women when it comes to dating: Men unconsciously Theput a priority on getting what they want. They simply do it. They live day to day, doing the things that they feel like doing. I have learned a lot from many male friends, and not one of them has ever asked "what is she thinking?" Even if they don't know exactly what they want themselves, they live their lives the way that benefits them without being immobilized other peoples' feelings.

It sounds selfish, and it is, but the ability to be selfish is extremely valuable in dating. The person who is the most self-centered is the one with the most control and the least confusion. Women in general just don't know how to prioritize their own needs, which is a great trait in a mother and selflessness comes naturally as a maternal instinct, but in the dating world, it is extremely detrimental.

I wish more women would date men and not get hung up on what he is thinking and feeling, what signals he's giving off, and just think: "Am I happy? If not, what do I need to change? Am I on the path to getting what I want?" and just LIVE without going crazy about what men might be thinking. You don't have to be "confused" if you put yourself first.

I changed my dating behavior based on what works for men, and my life is better for it. I haven't read "Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady" but I admit that the title appeals to me.

Just a rant :)

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 10-06-2010 - 9:25am

Good morning! Thanks for replying.

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Registered: 08-31-2009
Wed, 10-06-2010 - 10:35am

"What I tell my girl friends is this:

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