Why is money an issue?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2011
Why is money an issue?
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 9:06pm
I was recently involved in a friends with benefits relationship. I was honestly okay with this arrangement. He was 14 years older and divorced twice so I didn't want to be in a relationship with him. When we hung out we usually had sex. Things lasted for four months then I got a better job with lots of chances for promotions. He stopped texting and wanting to hang out after I changed jobs. He was great to talk to and excellent in bed. Our last outing I told him I was moving about 20 minutes a way from where we currently live his response was, "well I'll have to visit you on payday weekends.". I offered to pay for gas if he would come to visit. But was brutally honest that I didn't believe he would visit. We kissed a lot and he said I'll see you later. That was three weeks ago and not a word. Why can't I let this go? Why am I upset that he maybe on a date with someone right now? Why am I upset that I make more money and has offered to take him out to dinner or other places and he has turned me down? I'm already a person with low self-esteem so I of course think things ended because I wasn't pushy enough. Or that I wanted sex more often. I have a really high libido. Granted I have been our of town the past two weekends with family and friends but nothing. Not even an I don't want to see you anymore? Help, how do I move past this?
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 12:18am

Chola, perhaps he simply can't be bothered travelling 20 mins for sex.

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Sun, 07-24-2011 - 12:38am



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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 07-25-2011 - 4:20pm

Your ego is crushed that you could promise two very enticing things to a man (sex and money) and be turned down.

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Registered: 11-06-2008
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 11:50am

Rejection sucks thats all you put it out there and now nothing....move on with you.