Withdrawing to give space.....
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|Fri, 04-11-2003 - 11:44am|
Basically, my bf has had to spend the last 5 weeks at my house, due to a roommate situation. This has caused some tension in our relationship, so he's worked something out at home so that he can stay there, on the couch.
For me, its been fine that he stays at my house, but its been irking him. So I've been backing off lately and he's been sleeping at his house, on the couch.
So, since all this has started, I've felt myself mentally and physically withdrawing from him: not calling, when I have seen him, I've been very standoffish. I don't know if I'm unconsciously playing games by "punishing" him for not wanting to sleep at my house, or if I'm more protecting myself from feeling hurt about the whole thing.
Beyond that, we are supposed to be moving in together in a few months, and I'm starting to question if we're ready for that at all.
I know that the time away is good.... thats not what I'm questioning.... I guess I'm just wondering if this mental/physical withdrawal is normal. I just feels very strange to me, because normally we are a very close couple.
Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on this....