Would really like a male opinion plz :(

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Registered: 06-07-2010
Would really like a male opinion plz :(
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 12:27pm

Hi everyone,

Would love some opinion on my little problem.
Basically I was seeing a guy for 3 months, first 6 weeks was fab and he was really full on, he was open about not being able to commit (which was fine by me) but although he was saying that his actions said otherwise - particularly asking my opinions on everything to do with decorating his new house and also future plans.

Due to work commitment after the first 6 weeks we had to go from seeing each other 4 - 5 times a week to only 1 or 2 per week but we still maintained constant contact and can count on one hand the number of days we didn't speak.

Anyways he was also quite open about being a bit up and down due to a bad breakup (10 months ago)and then an injury meaning he was off work for 2 months didn't help either. So two weeks ago we were texting all day as normal and then later on the night i texted and asked if he had a good at work, he said no, so I said he could call me if he wanted and if nt not to worry. He didn't respond to that text and then I didn't hear anything form him for 4 days....I had sent a few messages in the mean time asking if he was ok.

The message I got from him was an apology for not speaking to me and that he wasnt speaking to anybody and that he was having a bad time at work and that he would speak to me soon. That was 2 weeks ago. I have sent him two messages since then (nothing asking for anything just checking that he is ok etc) which he hasnt responded to.

He has told me previously that when he is down he withdraws from people and likes to be left alone.

Also worth a mention is that he has dissappeared off facebook which is unlike him completely and I also bumped into his sister 9who he is very close too) who didn't have any idea he wasnt speaking to me!!

I am just wandering what people think, should I expect him to get in touch or was this his way of dumping me. I have very little experience with men so would love any insights.

Thank you for reading :)


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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 06-13-2010 - 8:14pm
Oh by the way women do this too!
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