Would you take the risk?
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|Fri, 07-16-2010 - 7:53pm|
I have secretly fallen for my friend & co-worker. We've known each other for a few years now. We're both friends outside of work & good co-workers at work. At work, we're always seen together during breaks, lunch or even leaving work together. People have assumed that we're a couple & there's been times when it does feel that way. If I'm busy, he will look for me or vice versa. We help each other with our work & make sure we never fall behind.
Outside of work, we're friends. We've gone out for drinks, and have grabbed a bite to eat together. Last year, we were partners in a sporting event, which was really fun. We get along really well as professionals & friends. He's very supportive of me & I, for him. These past months, we've gotten much closer in mind & closeness in our body language. Much more touchy feely, if that makes sense.
I am not sure if he knows how I feel because of the huge amount of time we're together. And suddenly, he's told me that his female friend has introduced him to her friend (I guess, in hopes to set him up?). This very same friend did the same thing a year ago with his now ex. I almost think his friend shouldn't quit her day job as a match-maker. Anyway, today, he told me that he met up with her last night - just to get to know her. I'm not sure where it will lead but a sudden jolt in me, made me want to tell him how I feel after all this time.
I'm a little torn for many reasons:
1) If I tell him how I feel, I risk our friendship which we greatly have.
2) Then, there's the age difference. Does age matter? For me, no, however, we have a 10 year age gap. A lot, right? I, being the older one. I've had a former ex telling me that it wouldn't work & it would only lead to intimacy and fizzle out from there on. However, whenever we're together, we never make a huge fuss about our age differences. We treat each other as equals & I certainly don't feel old nor do I look old at all.
A new girl has entered his life. I'm not sure where things are headed, and suddenly, I feel it's been long overdue & that I should tell him though, I am just scared of rejection, and most importantly jeopardizing our current relationship.
What would you do? Would you take the risk?
Thanks for reading.