wtf! Please explain

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-06-2012
wtf! Please explain
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 10:16pm

before the summer started i met a guy at a party. I didn't know that he was my type exactly, but we were both single parents and we had friends in common and he was very nice. I didn't know that i was that attracted to him. At the end of the night, unexpectedly I gave him a lift home. It turns out we live in the same neighborhood.  He wanted to thank me so he asked for my number and offered to take me to dinner as a thank you. It didn't seem date-ish. It seemed more friendly than anything else. We go to dinner and dinner ends up being amazing. He looked adorable and we closed out the restaurant. Literally they were sweeping around us. At the end of the night he offered to walk me home (about a half mile out of the way in the wrong direction from where he lives) and he kept trying to extend the date. We passed a movie theater and he suggested we go see the movie one day, etc.

When he said good night, he leaned in and kissed me. It was the best kiss I had had in a long time. And then we kept kissing. He held my hands, and I am not kidding when I say we kissed for about 30 mins on that street corner. It was very passionate kissing and he even held my hands while he kissed me. He said that he can't remember the last time he kissed someone like that on a street corner. He said we should definitely do this again.

He never called. I was SHOCKED. i had never been so surprised in my life. two weeks later i did exactly what you are not supposed to do. I texted him. I kept it light and airy and said I was bummed we never went out again, but if he ever wanted to gt together again let me know. He texted back that he was glad i reached out, and he did want to get together again, that he was going through a complicated time, and he would explain it over a drink sometime and he would call me soon.

I took that as he was seeing someone else possibly, or just not into me. I let it go and met someone else who i dated for the next 3 months. I literally ended it with the person i was seeing and the next day get a text from this guy.

"Hey, i hope your summer was great. I was thinking about you the other day and I was wondering if you wanted to get together after labor day?"

I said that would be great (maybe he broke up with the person he was seeing? who knows?) and to let me know when. He said will do and he is so happy i was up for it. this was last sunday. guess what? he never asked. WTF??????

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 9:42pm


Welcome to the board.

   Summertime is difficult for many people to meet new men.  After labor day then the summer crowd is gone and Fall is upon and also football.  If He has not called then move on until a definite meet is planned.  Women do this too!!.


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 09-16-2012 - 11:28am

I would take him at his word that there are other things going on in his life. Maybe it is with the mother of his child, maybe with another woman, maybe it's even a sick relative. Whatever is going on with him, I would just write him off at this point.