What does "not quite engaged" mean?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2012
What does "not quite engaged" mean?
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Fri, 03-15-2013 - 2:24am

Noticed this board on the main list and was curious. What does "not quite engaged" mean? You're expecting a proposal soon? Or just someone who has been dating someone for many years now? 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2012
Thu, 03-21-2013 - 11:19pm

Hello!

I think it means when the people in the relationship both know they want to get married to each other, but its just not possible right now for various reasons. So it will take a bit of time before they can get engaged and then married. Me and my boyfriend are in this stage right now. We are not finanically secure so engagement/marriage will be a little while from now.

Hope this helps! :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2012

Ah, yeah that makes sense. I guess I was thinking they would just be engaged until they could afford a wedding. And if not, just go down to the court house for the time being.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2012
When you find a time travel machine this is 'not quite' is OK. Since you can be assured the right time does arrive. Tell a police office 'I'm not quite insured' after an accident and see how far that goes. Loan someone money and be happy when their 'not quite' ready to repay. Ladies, it's important you know just how much of your LIFE and EMOTIONS your willing to spend waiting on Mr. 'not quite' ready. If you accept this position without bounds, meaning a definite Mr. I'm Engaged date, well let's just say good luck. People really in love, and I don't just mean below the belt, care enough to make a firm commitments to each other. Until till then remember your holding an IOU without anyway to collect. Sorry to burst someone's bubble of love but, men especially have been 'just not quite ready' for centuries. Besides IF he's already on first base maybe he'll just steal second when the opportunity presents itself. Make a man put some chips on the table instead of allowing him to play for free at your expense, otherwise your not playing the same game. Now go take a cold shower and shiver till some of those 'I am in love' hormones settle down and your brain returns to service!