Parents

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Registered: 06-01-2011
Parents
Sun, 09-16-2012 - 4:53pm
I grew up with a mentally ill mother, who seemed to have a mission to make everyone as unhappy as she was. We have had countless arguments, and on several occasions she abused me; all of this behavior was condoned by my father. Fast forward to getting my first job out of collegeand preparing to move 100 miles away. My mother went ballistic insisting that I travel home every weekend to clean her house, I refused and only visited a few times in two years. During this time I met and fell in love with a wonderful man. This man met my family and tried in vain to make a good impression, as my family was determined to hate everything about him. This only strained my relationship with my parents even more. Until several months ago when I was verbally assaulted by them, over the phone as they refuse to travel to visit. I cut all ties and communication with my parents although I still speak with my siblings. I can't decide if I should invite my parents to my wedding. I know that they will not participate in the planning and preparation even if I begged them to. To be frank I do not want them there, they will only criticize and my mother can not be trusted to not "make a scene." I am also afraid that both parents would object to our union. I just don't know what to do!