,,,and please try not to laugh.
First question I must ask is if DH is taking any oral meds for his diabetes. I think I posted here about having the same potty problems and it disappearing when I discontinued that med. I can't believe how much better my quality of life is now - was thinking of investing in a lifetime supply of disposable underwear.
Unfortunately, your DH sounds like so many people we all know. The facts are right in front of them, but they lack the willingness to do what needs to be done. With his advanced condition, doing any physical exertion must be painful. My heart aches that you must stand by and watch his deterioration if he doesn't get turn his attitude around. I've heard sitting such people down and going over their life insurance often gets them on track.
(((Pat))) That's just frustrating when they don't take care of themselves when they 'know' what to do. Mom was that way too. She has type II diabetes. She always used to thing that she was 'getting away with' eating stuff. Now she is in a motorized chair (Jazzy) whenever she's not in bed or on another chair. She has taken her last steps. She has diabetic peripheral neuropathy, among other things. She has had to give up driving completely and is confined to the chair, unless someone (me) takes her out of assisted living. She hates that!
In addition to Jacquies suggestion of the life insurance, you might also suggest taking a tour of the nursing homes he wants to consider when he can't take care of himself and you can't take care of him either. That could also make him think again, and, if and when the time comes to place him there, he can make an educated choice of where he wants to go. That's what mom did. He could see his future, if he doesn't change. It's pretty stark.
Bottom line, I feel your pain. It's hard watching someone you love when they don't take care of themselves, when the outcome is so obvious.
Keep in touch with whats going on.Hugs to you, GF!Teresa
Thanks so much for the support friends.
Many thanks to all of you, dear friends, for listening.
Pat, FYI the RX I was taking was Metformin (generic). The brand names are-Fortamet, Glucophage, Glucophage XR, Glumetza, Riomet
Metformin is the culprit we keep hearing about.