Aaaarugh, I Need To Vent

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Aaaarugh, I Need To Vent
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Mon, 01-25-2010 - 8:50pm

,,,and please try not to laugh.

 


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Mon, 01-25-2010 - 9:31pm

First question I must ask is if DH is taking any oral meds for his diabetes. I think I posted here about having the same potty problems and it disappearing when I discontinued that med. I can't believe how much better my quality of life is now - was thinking of investing in a lifetime supply of disposable underwear.

Unfortunately, your DH sounds like so many people we all know. The facts are right in front of them, but they lack the willingness to do what needs to be done. With his advanced condition, doing any physical exertion must be painful. My heart aches that you must stand by and watch his deterioration if he doesn't get turn his attitude around. I've heard sitting such people down and going over their life insurance often gets them on track.

Hugs,
Jacquie

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Mon, 01-25-2010 - 11:15pm
Oh Pat, I can relate to this! Several years ago, DMIL decided to stop smoking, so she got some Nicorette (sp?) gum. Well, she figured every time she had the urge to smoke, she should chew some gum....but the urge seemed to hit quite often and she was chewing like it was Juicy Fruit...she actually got nicotine poisoning from chewing so much Nicorette. Really not funny, it could have been tragic, but this goes to show, if you don't read the directions, you may be in a whole lot of trouble! Sadly DMIL never did quit smoking even right up to when she passed away from lung cancer.
 
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Tue, 01-26-2010 - 10:58am

(((Pat))) That's just frustrating when they don't take care of themselves when they 'know' what to do. Mom was that way too. She has type II diabetes. She always used to thing that she was 'getting away with' eating stuff. Now she is in a motorized chair (Jazzy) whenever she's not in bed or on another chair. She has taken her last steps. She has diabetic peripheral neuropathy, among other things. She has had to give up driving completely and is confined to the chair, unless someone (me) takes her out of assisted living. She hates that!

In addition to Jacquies suggestion of the life insurance, you might also suggest taking a tour of the nursing homes he wants to consider when he can't take care of himself and you can't take care of him either. That could also make him think again, and, if and when the time comes to place him there, he can make an educated choice of where he wants to go. That's what mom did. He could see his future, if he doesn't change. It's pretty stark.

Bottom line, I feel your pain. It's hard watching someone you love when they don't take care of themselves, when the outcome is so obvious.

Keep in touch with whats going on.
Hugs to you, GF!
Teresa



 

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Tue, 01-26-2010 - 11:17am

Thanks so much for the support friends.

 


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Tue, 01-26-2010 - 1:35pm

((((HUGS, PAT)))


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Wed, 01-27-2010 - 8:45am
Mine does the same thing. If one tablet is good when you need it then two twice a day will prevent it. Same mentality. Stubborn. But I can also see his side. I fight like crazy to stay out of my wheelchair even though I know moving will be easier in it. My DH keeps saying he is going to get me a motorized one and I insist I don't want or need it because I can walk just fine with just my cane. Unless it is wet outside. Or going to rain the next day. Or cold. And there aren't a lot of warm dry days going around lately. Maybe your DH is telling himself if he lives like he always did, the bad stuff he has will go away. Now I firmly believe in the power of positive thought and belief and faith in all good things coming to whoever truly believes they are. But I suppose sometimes we have to help ourselves. Hopefully he will soon understand that he needs to take advantage of the doctors and meds he has been provided with and treat his body as if it is the only one he will ever have. Good luck to you both.

 




 

purplesig

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Sun, 01-31-2010 - 9:05pm

Many thanks to all of you, dear friends, for listening.

 


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Sun, 01-31-2010 - 10:28pm

Pat,
FYI the RX I was taking was Metformin (generic). The brand names are-
Fortamet, Glucophage, Glucophage XR, Glumetza, Riomet

Jacquie

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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 12:02pm

Metformin is the culprit we keep hearing about.


Pat

 


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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 12:27pm
OK, now I'm interested.


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