Could Use Some Advice

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Registered: 08-10-2004
Could Use Some Advice
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 12:59am
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2004
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 1:48am
Sorry not sure why I couldn't get my post to come up but here's the gist...

I have been married twice to the same man...once when we were in our late 20's, we divorced in our early 40's and got back together a year later.

I have two adult sons from my previous marriage and we have no children together. I think this is a big part of our issues..

I know that I love him but he is not very compassionate with some of things that are going on in our lives right ow....our adut son has been using drugs but recently checked into a year long rehab program which I am extremely glad about.. the problem is, I am a bit weepy sometimes because I miss my son. My husband acts like I should just get over it.

I should also mention that I have another adult son as well who has helped immensely with getting my son (his brother ito rehab. It's almost as if my husband didn't want anytthing to do with it and didn't even go to a court hearig and did not take any time off work to help drop our son off at the program. I even called him one day because I was feeling overwhelmed and asked that he leave work an hour or so early.

Bottom line, he works every day, cuts the grass, works on the cars when they need work but contributes very very litte as to keeping the house clean. I am left to balance the budget which has been extremeley difficult lately befause I am not employed although I have been interviewing (for jobs that pay 1/2 the salary I had before I lost my job.)

Our sex life is almost nil and very frustrating for me.

I have tried talkihg with him, sending him emails and even writig letters. I don't know what to do. Sorry for the long, whiney post...thanks!

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 12:43pm

You do have some big things going on right now, no wonder you are feeling whiney. I hope that venting helped you to feel a little better.

Was your husband involved in raising your sons when they were growing up? Is he at all close with them, or was he just waiting for them to grow up and move on, or something in between?

When you try to communicate your feelings to your dh, what is his response?

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Registered: 08-10-2004
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 9:19pm

Thank you for your reply.