health issues

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health issues
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Sat, 08-10-2013 - 12:30am

I'm 62 and I've been friends with a guy 66 for several years.  He contacted me while on vacation and in short said when he got back home he'd like to talk to me about moving things along.  I said ok.  He acted very excited and told me he should of told me how he feels years ago.  When he got bavk he had a heart attack and eventually a triple bypass.  I had been contacting him but he wouldn't answer.  When he finally did he said that we probably better leave things the way they are since he's in bad health and wouldn't want me to be tied down to someone sick.  He also is diabetic and has copd.  I informed him I thought that should be my decision but if he wanted to stay just friends we will.  We have seen each other in about 5 years but still keep in contact. He's also made some insinuations in some of his messages.  He's a very sweet man and I hate to give up on him, but I don't want to push the subject either in case he's embarassed about his health. Maybe he just doesn't like me. Any suggestions?

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Registered: 11-29-2011
In reply to: hwh50
Mon, 08-12-2013 - 3:40pm
I bet that his heart attack scared him a lot, and he probably isn't emotionally ready for a relationship at this point. I think you should continue to be there as a friend and not put any pressure on him. Give him some time to feel like he's the same man as he was before. It might be time, though, to look around if you are looking for something more than friendship. Dating doesn't have to mean you are giving up on him.