Need Advice..or a Kick in the Pants!

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Registered: 12-30-2009
Need Advice..or a Kick in the Pants!
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 8:10am


I'm looking everywhere for advice and hope I can find help here. Let me explain. When I was much younger I knew the career path I wanted to take involving music, writing and art. I had brief, local success singing at a few places then I met the man of my dreams and gave it up to be a wife and stay at home mom.

Fast forward 30 odd years and I have a healthy, loving marriage, my children are living their own lives and I have a good life, but I feel like somethings missing. I've lost a little of "ME" along the way and I don't know how to get it back. DH gave me a guitar for my birthday (I have not played in years) and my first thought was "what a silly gift for a woman my age" but my next thought was "he knows me really well" because holding that guitar felt like holding an old friend.

This gift has brought back all those old dreams of singing, writing, painting. Obviously, I'm too old (and frankly too tired!LOL) to take the music world by storm, but I have begun to consider song-writing, writing, etc, but I have that nagging little voice saying "You are too old", "You will look like an old fool and be a laughing stock"!

I really need advice, a shoulder to cry on...or maybe a kick in the pants..I know there is a new chapter to my life and I don't know what to do with it..............

Thanks for "listening!"

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 11:46am

Molly, you are not too old to have some fun with your hidden talents.

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Wed, 12-30-2009 - 5:32pm

I think you should do whatever your heart leads you to do, and stop worrying about "being too old" for anything! I always wanted to be a writer, and did indeed write many stories when I was a kid. My daddy encouraged me, and likewise my husband many years later. I was (am) so self conscious that the first day I walked into a beginner's writing class, I looked around at the young people and asked myself "What on earth am I doing here?" Needless to say, I didn't go back, nor have I written any "blockbuster" novels or even short stories. I still dream of being a writer, but doubt if I ever will. If you love music, art and writing, then I say GO FOR IT!!! If you don't, you may someday be writing this letter to someone else.

Hugs, Sandi

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Fri, 01-01-2010 - 1:01pm


never to old to try anything new!!! Went back to school because I got laid off from my job -- thought I was nuts but it was


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-02-2010 - 6:38pm

Hello, Mollyme, and WELCOME to 50 and Fab board! I'll jump right into this topic with you, for at my age, I've had a guitar in my possession since I was 19 years old! I don't play it much any more, but it is handy if I ever choose to pick it up and strum off a few chords.

I used to sing a little way back then, even wrote a few songs that were never published, and it was just pure self-entertainment for me. My voice has changed a lot through the years,


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