New to 50

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
New to 50
10
Sun, 02-07-2010 - 9:06pm

Hi all,
I turned 50 in January. Thought I'd check out your message board.
Hope everyone is doing well and enjoying our winter weather.
A little about me: I'm happily married to my husband of nearly 11 years.
We aren't parents, so no kids or grandkids, but we own three spoiled cats (or they own us!)
I work full-time as a banker and enjoy sales and the challenge of helping others manage their money.

I live in small town in Michigan where we found our dream home, a historic farmhouse built in 1877. It was totally restored by the previous owners and we love living here. My husband runs a successful consulting business from home.

I was wondering where everyone was from and how they like their 5th decade? No drama for me. I'm actually glad to "arrive" and be at a place in my life that I find satisfying. I still have challenges - work, family, finances, and other thing, but that's normal. I didn't expect that to change with a milestone birthday.

Anyone out there make a major life change at 50? I'm contemplating what I really want to be when I grow up and wondered if others have made that journey. Thanks in advance for sharing.

Sincerely,
Dawn aka Wisdomtooth2020

Avatar for dovie2000
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Sun, 02-07-2010 - 11:42pm

Welcome, Dawn!


We are always glad to have new people join us.


Image hosted by Photobucket.com


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2002
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 6:04am

Welcome to the group Dawn. We are a true little family here. We gather around our cyber table to catch up with news, cry on a shoulder, or give a pat on the back. The important thing is that the ladies here truly care about each other. They have been a true Godsend to me, I know. So grab a seat and join in with anything going on.

Like you, my 50s are good. I am married to a really great guy, was blessed with three kids, two who have gone back to God, and 6 grandkids, one we are raising. The last couple of years have been especially challenging, but we made it through. Now on to the next big thing! LOL

 




 

purplesig

Avatar for highsierra
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 5:59pm

Welcome Dawn, I'm Pat, also up in the Spokane WA area.

 


Image hosted by Photobucket.com 
Avatar for tswalnut
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 11:10pm

Welcome to our board, Dawn! Love having you here.

I'm Teresa, living on our little farm in central Kansas. Hubby and I know our banker VERY well! lol.

I'm 61, so I'm much more experienced at my 50's than my 60's. I LOVED my 50's. I've always been a working partner on the farm, but in my 50's I had my first 'town job' in a bead shop. We sold beads and designed and made beaded jewelry. I worked for my ex-DDIL (not 'dear')and loved working with the people/customers. Between that, and becoming a grandma, I had a couple of big life changes in my 50's. The town job went away with the divorce. I was very ok with the job going away. I love my privacy, but love to be with people sometimes too. I am quite active in church, and the job sometimes got in the way of doing that, and it got in the way of helping my mom too.

HD and I have been married for 43 years and have 2 kids. Our DD and her DH have our 2 grandkids, Zane and Zora, and live about and hour from us. Our DSon was divorced about a year ago, which was a very good thing for him. He is currently in a fairly serious relationship, which we're very happy about. He lives about 30 min. away from us. He doesn't have any kids...yet. ;-)

We have farmed all our lives, and I don't see that changing any time soon.

I joined this board a bunch of years ago, and really enjoy and appreciate the gals on here. We're welcoming and supportive, so join us when you have a chance. Many of us are here daily, even if we don't post. I hope you choose to join us. We'd love to have you!

Teresa, from my Kansas farm.



 

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 12:29am

Hello again,
Thanks Dovie and everyone who replied with such a warm welcome to me! I'm actually in tears because you've all been so kind!

Congrats to all of you for weathering life's challenges, especially loss of children. My heart goes out to you.

You'll notice the pink ribbon on my signature. My dear sister, who is 6 years younger than me, has breast cancer. We learned right before Christmas it has metastatized to her bones. I've been holding my grief in for a couple of months and this weekend it's all come tumbling out. Tonight, I burst into tears after buying a birthday card for my dear nephew - sister's son- for his 6th birthday this week. I cry because I don't know if I'll be buying a birthday card for my sister whose bday is April 12.

I thank all of you for reading this. I have little time for friends as my work day is long and tiring. The one friend I count on most (also a breast cancer survivor) did not respond as I had hoped to my email about my sister. (She disagrees with how my sister approached her treatment.) So I have also grieved my friend's lack of friendship right now.

My sister is a very independent and private person. She never told me what type or stage of cancer she had when she was diagnosed 5 years ago. She just said "it was bad." She's had multiple lumpectomies,a mastectomy, and has taken the alternative treatment route the whole way refusing to do radiation or chemo. I've always respected her choices given she knows herself much better than anyone and also because she's always reacted very severely to any medication or procedure in the past.

To date she has voraciously refused to accept a death sentence and has gone on with her life as always. She's eating organic food and drinking protein shakes and vitamins. When I saw her at Christmas she could barely walk and was home with hospice. Two months later she is nearly pain free, is driving, is going to her store every day, is taking care of her son and doing what she's always done - lived.

Ladies I really don't know what to think any more. I know medically she's not well but she's defying everything the doctors told her 2 months ago. I haven't grieved because she won't accept it and I haven't either. I pray daily for God's grace and healing and beg him to save her. Yet, I find it challenging to hold in my fears. I'm trying to carry on just like she is.

Thanks for letting me dump on you. I needed it.

Avatar for shareylee
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2003
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 9:48am

((Hi Dawn,))


Shareylee here from snowy Peoria, Il (9" last night!) sending you a big bear hug!First, I want to sayI did read all of the posts and saw your post about your sister. Please come and share a cup of tea and talk to us when you need. I will keep her in my prayers as I am sure a lot of us will. Life is short as I have sound out in the last year with the loss of two brother-in-laws and a cousin and an aunt so cherish every minute that you have with her.


NOW, haviang said that. . . .this is a fantastic board of women. . .

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 10:32am

Shareylee,
So glad to make your acquaintance! I am an Illinois Native! I was born near DeKalb, IL where I grew up just north of NIU campus.I lived in Peoria for three years (1995-1998) and bought my first house in Peoria Heights, IL. I have many fond memories of my time there. I worked as a PR specialist for the U.S. Department of Agriculture Lab on University street.

I divorced in 1997 and remarried in 1999 and since then have made Michigan my home. I get home to DeKalb about 6 times a year, more now that my sister is ill with cancer. I haven't been back to Peoria since I sold my house there in 2000.

I appreciate your hugs and your welcome. thank you!

Avatar for tswalnut
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 10:59am

Oh, (((Dawn))), I know exactly what you mean about buying greeting cards. My older brother has lung cancer and Hospice didn't think he would see Christmas. It was so hard to buy his 'last Christmas card', I bawled and bawled all the way home from Wichita, about an hour. His birthday is in June, but I don't think he will be here then. I talk to him fairly often, and DH and I went to see him shortly after his diagnosis in Aug. He lives in Great Falls, MT, which is over 20 hrs from here. Now he doesn't want either of his sisters to see him like this. He isn't fighting it at all, so the cancer will win.

However....DH's uncle had cancer back in the 60's and went to Mexico for 'alternative treatment' (Laetrile). His wife and he have totally changed their diet to fresh fruits and veggies and very little meat and nuts and seeds, etc, and they are both about 90, still out on the farm, and totally taking care of themselves. They have been making everything (everything) from scratch for over 40 years and when I talked to her a few weeks ago she said she is "Tired of cooking". Can't say I blame her!

My SIL is a 35 yr survivor w/o extra treatments after a mastectomy when she was 37.

I do feel your pain of being in the process of supporting a cancer patient. If she is on Hospice, perhaps you can receive help/counseling from Hospice. They certainly helped me when DFIL was dying of a brain tumor.

Keep in touch and come back to 'talk' and grieve anytime you want. You have friends here.

Teresa, from my KS farm



 

Avatar for dovie2000
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 12:59pm

Sending huge hugs, Dawn.


Image hosted by Photobucket.com


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: wisdomtooth2020
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 10:59pm

Hi Dawn,


Hello from Arkansas!