32 living the life of a 25 year old....

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32 living the life of a 25 year old....
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Sun, 07-29-2012 - 8:18pm
Im 32 going on 33 next month, I don't have any children and have never been married.... Is something wrong with me? I'm starting to get down on myself, I haven't been in a "real relationship " in three years... I tend to date/attract only jerks with one thing on their mind and I'm starting to think its me?!?! I have a decent job but I'm not satisfied with my educational level so in order to go back to school full time and keep my full time job I have moved home for a year to pay for school out of pocket. Im trying to get financially ahead for once in my life. Yes I'm 32 and live with mom and dad :/ ! I have a good core group of friends and a supportive family. I keep very physically fit, dress well, have a good personality, and many would say I'm above average in the looks department. Problem is this: guys are not into me!?!? People at work, family, friends all wonder why I'm single and I have no answer for them. I know that I tend to be picky,... I just refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies in my stomach. Also, I'm petrified of being hurt and having my heart broken.... I have been hurt badly emotionally and physically by an ex ( that's not an issue... I was smart enough to get out). People think I'm the total package though ... So much so ,that some of the judges I work for have tried to set me up with younger family members, co-workers live vicariously through me, my friends tell me that if I wasn't their friend they would "hate me" ect, ect ! In reality, on the inside I'm lonely, insecure and completely lost.
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Wed, 08-01-2012 - 10:26am
I think you might be wrong when you say that you've "been hurt badly emotionally and physically by an ex ( that's not an issue... I was smart enough to get out)." Because you are still feeling insecure, I think the hurt you went through might have contributed to that. Have you considered talking to someone about this, like a therapist? They might be able to help you get past the insecurities.

I don't think there's anything wrong for wanting to not settle for less. If guys aren't into you, maybe the reason goes back to your insecurities. Generally, guys like to see confidence in women. It's possible your insecurities are holding you back with this.