Advice? Anyone?

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Advice? Anyone?
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:37pm

So here I am, 31 (will be 32 this year - shhh) and newly single.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
In reply to: baghag78
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:44pm
My friends set me up with my BF.
 
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Registered: 08-11-2008
In reply to: baghag78
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 2:18am

I've been wondering this for a while, and beyond that, why is it whenever I meet a nice guy, he's either taken or has no interest in me?

If you figure out the answer, let me know!

School Girl

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School Girl
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Registered: 04-15-2008
In reply to: baghag78
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 8:44am

some of you know me and some of you dont.. and i think baghag.. you dont know my story... so a fast scaled down book..

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Registered: 05-21-2009
In reply to: baghag78
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 10:06am

I met my husband online too! :-)


When we met, I was

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Registered: 02-05-2008
In reply to: baghag78
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:05pm
remember that it takes a while to see if a guy is really "nice".
 
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Registered: 01-22-2007
In reply to: baghag78
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:56pm

Thanks for all the advice!

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: baghag78
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 5:14pm

I came out of a long-term relationship and started dating my now husband when I was 32 (almost 33). I am now almost 35.

We sort of met online and sort of met in a bar. :) We were both members of a meetup.com group -- a Web site where you can meet people with similar interests and sign up for events that fit your interests. So, we met at a jazz/wine bar, but it was because of that meetup group.


I have other 30-something friends who have met their SOs at friends' parties, in classes, online dating sites, etc.


My sister met her husband because her friend begged her to come out on New Year's. My sister really didn't want to go, but finally relented. Her DH was part of the group that met for dinner and the rest is history.

My best advice is to just stretch your comfort zone a bit. If you find yourself saying no to something, reconsider. If you go and hate it, you don't have to stay long -- but you could meet some good friends or a potential date. You just never know.



AJ, enjoying life with C.


May your 2010 bring you many gifts.


Anniversary


My blog:
Marriage, step-parenthood and enjoying life.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-15-2008
In reply to: baghag78
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 9:16am

ahhhhhhhhhhhh but its NOT IMPOSSIBLE order to ACHIEVE, i/we did.. i too am childless and was searching searching for a guy my age-ish that didnt have kids.. and I FOUND ONE who was equally amazed that a chick my age didnt have some..


i was 35 when we met.. and funny note.....this is the same guy i met online and he admitted later on that HE THOUGHT I WAS LYING about it.. so he had to come over at least a time or 2 un announced to see IF there are any toys or kids clothes layin around...(lol) i said....


its not that either of us have anything againist kids.... its just well some people arent meant to be parents(we believe)...


SO DONT GIVE UP.. THEIR OUT THERE.