To All Who Are Married . . . In-law?

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To All Who Are Married . . . In-law?
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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 5:10pm
Okay, I want to know what your in-laws or soon to be in-laws. We all know they can be a little nutty at times, but some are just over the roof! (Think Everybody Loves Raymond)Please answer these questions:

1. How close do you live to your inlaws? How much time do you spend with them?

2. Do you get along well, deal with each other, or hate each other?

3.If you answered either of the last two options in number 2, what do they do that irritates you?

4. Do you think it's normal to have trouble with in-laws?

5. Would you say most of your fights with your SO are in-law related?

6. How do you deal with your inlaws?

7. Do you think your parents are okay?

Thanks for answering these questions!

Tarra

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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 5:21pm

Tara,


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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 5:51pm
1. How close do you live to your inlaws? How much time do you spend with them?

~We now live about 2000 miles away from the in-laws. I haven't seen them at all since we moved (a little better than 2 years ago), and DH has seen them once. Prior to the move, we lived within an hour of them, and saw them around 5-6 times a year.

2. Do you get along well, deal with each other, or hate each other?

~It depends on the day of the week! We've definitely had our ups and down over the years (myself and MIL), but have actually been getting along pretty well recently.

3.If you answered either of the last two options in number 2, what do they do that

irritates you?

~MIL thinks her son can do no wrong; all of our problems are my fault, and I make her son miserable! When she's "upset" with me, she'll "forget" special occasions, like my birthday, she won't call the house if she thinks I'm home, that kind of thing.

4. Do you think it's normal to have trouble with in-laws?

~Normal? Yes, I think there are a lot of people who have some amount of difficulty at some point with their in-laws.

5. Would you say most of your fights with your SO are in-law related?

~Very seldom have had any fights relating to in-laws.

6. How do you deal with your inlaws?

~I've been with DH for 9 years, and have suffered through these roller coaster rides with MIL through them all. This most recent time, I decided to be the "better" person, and extended the olive branch to her by sending her a nice e-card. We then started corresponding via email on almost a weekly basis, and she calls even if she knows I'm home:)

7. Do you think your parents are okay?

~DH absolutely loves my parents! They treat him just like he's their actual son, and he thoroughly enjoys spending time with them.

Jennifer:)

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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 7:00pm
1. I live about 7 miles from mine.

2. I get along well with them, especially my mil.

3. They don't irritate me as mch as when I first met them.

4. I think at some point it is normal to hae trouble with them, especially at the beginning of a marriage or relationship b/c they are different and it take adjusting.

5. No, they are directly related to other things.

6. I ignore my in-laws if a comment is made but that hasn't happened in a long time. They love me as well.

7. My parents are great inlaws to my dh.

Rebekah

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Tue, 09-30-2003 - 8:17am

I've been married twice and 3 years to my current DH. Here are my answers:


1. How close do you live to your inlaws? How much time do you spend with them?

I have only a MIL to deal with, so I have it a bit easier than some. She and I get along very well and while I think she is crazy at times, I'm sure she thinks the same of me. We see each other once a week, at least, but it's rare for she and I to do something alone together. It has happened, but it's rare.

2. Do you get along well, deal with each other, or hate each other?

I think I answered this question in #1.

3.If you answered either of the last two options in number 2, what do they do that irritates you?

My MIL and my DH have a very interesting relationship. Without going into a long story, I will simply tell you that they cannot be together without arguing about SOMETHING. They each have to be right and it's highly annoying. She projects this onto me sometimes when we're discussing current events or something either of us have an opinion on. She has a hard time just listening.

4. Do you think it's normal to have trouble with in-laws?

I think it's perfectly normal! After all, if you married your spouse for his family, do you think you would've married??? I know I wouldn't have!

5. Would you say most of your fights with your SO are in-law related?

No. Most of our fights are money related.

6. How do you deal with your inlaws?

I sit back and stay quiet most of the time. Why start something? I just let her speak her mind, even if I don't agree with it. The only time I say something is if it affects me, my DH or our DS directly.

7. Do you think your parents are okay?


My parents are great and they strive to be the best in-laws they can be, too! They have accepted my DH unconditionally and have treated him like one of the family since Day One. I love my parents dearly, as I'm sure you love yours.

*Rebecca*

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Tue, 09-30-2003 - 11:39am
I usually lurk but ill answer.



1. How close do you live to your inlaws? How much time do you spend with them?

They live downstairs and diagonal from us. I avoid MIL whenever possible but I see her often we dont spent a lot of time with her, dinner once a month. I loved FIL but he passed away 1.5 years ago. :(

2. Do you get along well, deal with each other, or hate each other?

MIL and FIL both like(d) me. Like I said before FIL was great. I hate MIL.

3.If you answered either of the last two options in number 2, what do they do that irritates you?

MIL is your sterotypical blonde airhead and that annoys me, but she cant make a single decision without my DH. It was the same before FIL passed on she didnt get that he doesnt live there anymore.

4. Do you think it's normal to have trouble with in-laws?

Yes.

5. Would you say most of your fights with your SO are in-law related?

No. Because why i so dislike his mother is what bothers him about her too.

6. How do you deal with your inlaws?

I am cordial and dont spend any time with them.

7. Do you think your parents are okay?

No. I dont get along with my dad - one reason i did get along with FIL and I get along much better with my mom now i dont live near her. Absence makes the heart grow fonder :)

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Wed, 10-01-2003 - 3:41pm

1. How close do you live to your inlaws? How much time do you spend with them?

We live about 15-20 minutes from my father-in-law.

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 4:18pm
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1) I live 10 min away from them but my hubby sees them more often then I do for If I went there 24/7 like he did I go insane

2) Well let me put it this way my BIL's love me and I love them its the SIL that is snotty to me at times and FIL/MIL are ok


3) How they control their son ( My Hubby) and his sibs do the same thing too and he rarely stands up for himself and it drives me crazy!!


4) Yes

5) Sometimes


6) Ignore their stupidity for sometimes they are dumb

7) My side is fine even DH loves my side =)