Allow Me to Re-Introduce Myself...

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Registered: 04-03-2012
Allow Me to Re-Introduce Myself...
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 7:28pm

Hey everyone,

I just wanted to re-introduce myself. I used to be on the ivillage boards in the early 2000's and I am so glad the community is still active. I turned 30 last year and I felt like I stepped right into myself. Saying No to things I didn't want to do or be apart of became so easy all of a sudden and I just took life by the balls and sqeezed, lol. I just wanted to ask others how they felt when they stepped into their 30's? Has it been as empowering for you as it has been for me? Do you find that you aint taking "no sh*t" and your going to run your race and live your life or has it be harder? My 20's were a roller coaster of unfulling work and relationships and I was glad to say goodbye to those years!

The Chic Motivator - Author of: Bitch, You're Tryin' It (coming Spring 2012)
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Registered: 06-03-2009
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 9:03pm
I think I started to feel that way right around 28. Not sure why but I was just over all the bs. While I'm happy I've cut all the toxic friends, crappy work relationships, and loser bf's it is harder to fill my life with people that are more my speed you know?
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Registered: 09-07-2000
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 1:23pm
Welcome back!

I've never been one to put up with a lot of garbage from other people, and I've always been pretty OK with telling people no. My 30s haven't changed me too much. I do think it's easier for me to let things go, though.
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Registered: 01-30-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 10:07am

Hey, ChicMotivator : ) I absolutely concurr! My early 20's were a total blur of partying, flying by the seat of my pants, crazy relationships and testing boundaries. I was actually very carreer motivated from 25 to 29 and that was a stablizing experience. Then I got engaged to the WRONG man, got pregnant, had a simply amazing child and spent almost 5 years in one of the worst relationsips of my life. I had just turned 33 when I realized I had to get out of it or I would spend the remainder of my life as an empty shell of who I am if I even still existed at all. So, I left him and endured some of the worst hardships of my entire life. And very soon after, maybe as a result of overcoming this trial by fire and re-introducing myself to the world with very positive feed-back, all of my prior insecurities were gone, just gone. I'm 34 now and definitely not claiming to have all of my stuff together. In fact, I was probably in a more stable and secure situation financially and professionally in my late 20's. But mentally and emotionally, I am a force to be reckoned with. I know who I've been, who I am, who I strive to be. I accept and love the fact that I'm ever-evolving. I don't judge or idealize people and situations the way I used to, instead I try to understand and hopefully learn from them. Frankly, if this is me in my 30's, I can't frickin wait for my 40's, lol! I look forward to reading your book : )

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Thu, 12-13-2012 - 12:08pm

Hi everyone,

My 30's have been great!  Got married, have 2 children.  I just turned 39 in November, and I am so not looking forward to turning 40 next year Undecided  My 20's in college and hanging out with friends all the time was so much fun!  My 30's, I have settled down and started a family.  Kind of scared what the 40's will be like.  My body feels old, but my spirit is still like I am 25 years old!  Where did the last 10 years go?!?!

A few of you mentioned about not taking crap from people or getting toxic friends out of your life (I know those were not the exact words anyone used, but you get the idea).  Any thoughts on ending friendships?  I know I have a very hard time letting people go.  It is like we use to say, "friends forever" in high school, but now I feel that is not so much true?  Any thoughts?  I recently lost my best friend of 20 years (long story, her choice) and I am having a hard time understanding how someone can tell you how important you are in their life and would be devastated if anything were to happen to me, then one day, changed her email, number, etc. 

Sorry, had to get that off my chest.  Any thoughts would be great Smile