Almost 36...Single...DONE with bar scene

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Almost 36...Single...DONE with bar scene
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Thu, 01-28-2010 - 12:22pm

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 2:52pm

APPLAUSE!!!!!!!!!!! FINALLY SOMEONE ELSE IN THE WORLD CAN SEE THAT IT DOES HAPPEN.. you GROW OUT OF FRIENDSHIPS(but thats a whole different story).


i LIVED/live your current life right now.. i am 40(shhhhhh) recently remarried and the problem is the same as 2 of yours... out growing of the friendship and the younger crowd scene as it were.... I didnt meet him in a bar.. i met him online.. and ALL OF his friends are younger than we are (me 40 him about to be 40).


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Registered: 04-29-2008
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 3:40pm

Thank you, soarnangels... I do believe I need to slowly back away.

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Registered: 05-21-2009
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 3:51pm

I can totally understand your POV.

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 4:21pm

Thank you, diggingforfire..


I will suggest other activities, but the issue is that she works late, and doesn't get home until way after dinner time.

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Registered: 10-17-2005
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 5:00pm
Honestly, I don't think age has much to do with interest in the bar/club scene. I've NEVER been interested in that kind of thing. Not at 18 when my friends all had fake IDs, not at 21, not after college, and still now not at 30. Sounds like maybe you were interested in it before, but you're not now. And it sounds like your friend in her late 30's still likes the energy. I don't think having that different interest means you have to cut the cord on the friendship. What I don't understand is why you're giving in and going with her if you don't want to. When my friends ask me to do something I don't want to do, I say no. She can't force you to go. If she doesn't drop it, end the conversation. If there are other things you two connect on, the friendship will go on minus the trips to the bar when her SO is out of town. If there's nothing else to the friendship, it will fade naturally on its own when you start declining her invitation to accompany her to the bars/clubs.
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Registered: 04-29-2008
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 11:39am

Hi calicimbergrl,


To be honest...A part of me wishes I were never interested in the bar/club scene at one time in my life to begin with.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 12:41pm

Hi Angelgirl,


Sorry for replying late - I've been sick, but I'm back at work again.

 
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Registered: 05-21-2009
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 1:53pm

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LOL - exactly!

My old friend (former friend?) never understood why guys didn't hit on her as much at the bar when she hit late 20's and 30+. She's attractive and looks plenty young. But I just think people who go out every weekend kind of get the reputation for being a barfly and even other barflies aren't into it. That may come off rude or sexist but I think it's true :-D

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 4:02pm

"My old friend (former friend?) never understood why guys didn't hit on her as much at the bar when she hit late 20's and 30+.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 7:04pm
You are so right!!!
 

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