Any others have never received flowers?

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Any others have never received flowers?
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Wed, 02-11-2004 - 8:33am
I'm 32 and have never received even so much as a dandelion from a guy before. I was in a 1 year relationship (my longest) and he told me a couple of times that he was going to get me some but then never did for whatever reason he could think of, not even for Valentines Day! All my friends have received numerous flowers and guys I talk to can't believe I've never gotten any. Is this odd? It would just mean so much to me to get a single flower from a guy!
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 11:56am


I don't think it's that odd not to get flowers from a guy you are dating. The rules of dating have changed so much over the years; I think guys may get confused at what women want. The guy you dated for a year...did you harp on him for never getting you flowers, thereby taking the spontaneity out of getting you flowers? Also, don't overlook the other things that guys try to do to create romance. It can be as little as them really getting excited about sharing you the joys of their new mp3 player, taking a romantic stroll, or sitting down to watch your favorite chick flick with you. If you overlook these things, you may be overlooking other ways that men tell you how much they like you. When and if you do get flowers, it will be when you least expect it and it will mean so much more to you.

I had an old boyfriend give me flowers all the time...but mainly because he was always starting arguments with me for no reason, acting like a drunken fool, or basically anything that he had to apologize for. If you get too many flowers for those kinds of reasons, believe me, it's not romantic at all!

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 12:44pm
I have gotten flowers & plants from my DH, usually when I hint & because he knows I like them.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 4:36pm

Personally, I think flowers are overrated, and as in the case of the previous poster, sometimes guys only give flowers because they were stupid as their way of saying, "I'm sorry." That's not a good reason to get flowers.


I know some guys who give flowers only occasionally, and while this is nice, it's not everything. I'd much rather have love and affection from a guy than flowers. Flowers die. Besides, if you really want flowers, go buy yourself some! I think what you're really missing is that unconditional love from someone...not the flowers.

*Rebecca*

Rebecca
Loving wife to David (3-2

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 5:21pm
Delurking to say I don't think it's odd. I can count on 1 hand the number of times my husband has given me flowers and we've been together for almost 10 years. The first time he gave me flowers was on our 1st dating anniversary. The second was for Valentine's Day after we'd been together a few years. The third was one time he had flowers sent to my office for my birthday.

He does other things though. He brings home fresh chocolate chip cookies once in awhile. He kills spiders because they creep me out. I cut myself one time in the kitchen and got blood all over a favorite sweatshirt and a couple days later another sweatshirt mysteriously showed up.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 5:22pm
I buy myself flowers. When I go to the grocery store and come in under budget, I often cruise by the flower display and pick myself up a a bouquet.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 6:13pm
Hi! I love flowers! It's nice to get them from someone or just for yourself. Can't wait

till spring to see them bloom! :)

fan

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Registered: 05-07-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 7:53pm
It's nice to get something pretty once in a while, isn't it? Whether it's flowers or a teddy bear or a sparkly bauble. Perhaps, though, we shouldn't focus so much on the gifts than what the guy brings to the relationship. Does he respect you? Does he treat you kindly? Does he offer to do things for you? Is he loving? Do you do these things in return? These are more important than flowers. A guy can give you flowers and still be the ultimate jerk!

Mozart.