Do you take time for yourself?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Do you take time for yourself?
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 9:57am

It can be so hard, especially if you are working full time or get little help from your SO: 

Experts say it’s no surprise that women forget – or even disregard – the need to take care of themselves.

Women often feel guilty about taking time for themselves, says psychiatrist and TODAY contributor Dr. Gail Saltz. “There is some maternal ideal of being self-sacrificing that just isn’t consistent with having time for yourself,” she said.

The key, says Saltz, is for women to recognize the difference between being selfish in a bad way and being selfish in a healthy way.

“You have to put on your oxygen mask first,” she says. “If you go to pieces, everyone is going down with you. So you have to give time to yourself. That is healthy, not selfish or narcissistic. That is a tough concept for a lot of women.”

Saltz acknowledges that free time is a scarcity for many women, but adds that even as little as 15 to 30 minutes a day to decompress will help.

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I started going to the gym about 4 months ago, and it really helps to work out some of the cobwebs in my head and get my energy levels up.  It's also a boost to my self esteem, just makes me feel better overall.  It is a challenge to go regularly though, it seems that there are weeks that there are more pressing matters than taking time to keep myself healthy.  My other way to decompress is to do head to my bed with the paper and do all the daily puzzles.  It just relaxes me ;)

How are you at taking time for yourself?

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 01-22-2014 - 12:26pm
I used to be really bad at it, especially with two little ones. But I have gotten much better about it. I try and schedule it so that they do classes at the Y and I can work out during those classes, or I try and make sure one night a week DH is home early enough for me to go work out. Every few weekends I will tell him I need a break and I will leave for 2-4 hours and just do what i want, shopping, a pedicure, go to a coffee shop and read, just something to decompress and relax. I also try and set aside one lunch hour a week to do something for myself, I do do an exercise class a few days a week at lunch, but i will schedule other things like just having lunch with a friend of something that's all for me.
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Registered: 12-14-2008
Wed, 01-22-2014 - 1:19pm
I do. I come on this site to talk. My friends and I don't talk about RELATIONSHIP and MENTAL WELL BEING stuff. It's becomes drama at times. Cmmelissa, I think....if you took care of yourself, you can care for others better. I am very happy you took a time out and you very much deserve it!
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Registered: 12-12-2013
Wed, 01-22-2014 - 10:33pm
I agree with confident_resilient, taking some time off and coming to this website really rejuvenates and help you see things in correct perspective. Here you share problems with perfect strangers, solve their problems and even vent it out. Nothing could be more therapeutic than this!