Does he treat you like you matter?

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Does he treat you like you matter?
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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 1:21am

I've noticed that women seek attention but aren't really getting any in their relationships, be it personal, professional, parental or romantic. We want to be heard, to be touched, to have someone notice our little quirks but we can't outright ASK for it. Why is that?? Relationships take a lot of effort to cultivate and nourish and when we finally reach the 'comfort' zone we stop trying..'oh, it's alright that he doesn't kiss me goodbye or hold the door for me, I know he still loves me' or, 'I know I did a good job but he's my boss, he deserves to take the credit (and the bonus)', or, 'my daughter is just going through a stage in her life, her emotional outbursts at me are her way of venting'.

NO, ladies! We deserve to be treated like we matter. It's a simple concept---what do you think? I'm in my late 30's and have had my fair share of bad relationships, from immature boys who only remember your name in the wee hours of the morning to siblings who cry on your shoulder for hours but never once ask about your life (except on your birthday, which is forever memorialized in the Blackberries). As we mature, we learn to accept their shortcomings and brush them off but it's time to take a stand. What gripes you about your current situation? Is it the husband that comes home to eat and veg infront of the TV? Or a supervisor who adlibs your ideas in a meeting? Or, even acquaintances - the neighbor who steals your Sunday paper and smiles as she passes you in the hallway. Inquiring minds want to know.

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 8:19am

well i tend to live in the world of... what is i do that might not be so perfect with him? it does go both ways, yep sometimes us chicks dont get all

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 12:39pm

Hi Passionfrut,


Welcome to the board!!


You make some good points.

 
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 12:41pm
I agree it is hard to know where to draw the line.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 3:49pm

I think, very simply, sometimes you have to ask for what you need or want.


AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Tue, 12-08-2009 - 8:22am
i couldnt agree more... sometimes even as much as it stinks you have to give in and let it go or give in and accept whatever it is