Friend invited my X to her wedding~ HELP
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|Wed, 02-04-2004 - 5:29pm|
Anyhow - time went on and I got married. I spoke briefly to Matt around that time and told him I was married. He seemed very upset. I haven't spoken to him since. My husband knows about my relationship with Matt and he is uncomfortable with it. He requested when we met that I cut off all ties with him, and I have.
Now, my friend Jen is getting married. She asked me to be in her wedding. I asked her if Matt was invited and she said yes. I told my husband and he is very upset. I feel like Jen has betrayed me. I have told her before that my husband is uncomfortable with my past relationship. I told her my ex had to go to therapy after our breakup. But she went and invited him to her wedding anyhow. I'm shocked because I don't think she is any closer to my ex than she is to me! I feel now like telling her I'm out of her wedding. It just has the potential of being too upsetting for me, my husband and my ex. Besides, she is not a close friend as far as I'm concerned. And if anything, my memories of our time together are not very good. I called her earlier and left a message - but I am petrified of telling her. She has an effect on me where she makes me very nervous. I've never stood up to her in my life - and this is not like me in general. I always defend myself. But I've never been able to with her.
HELP! What should I do? What should I say to her?