Grief for not Visiting Enough
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|Tue, 11-25-2003 - 3:04pm|
I encounter this same problem over and over again. Some friends that live near my old town e-mail me often asking me to come out and visit them and I did visit them several times. I also invited them to my very casual wedding reception this past summer; they said they'd attend but they never showed. I've talked to these friends since then and they keep pressuring me to drive out to see them again (an hour one way). I feel that if they want to see me so badly, they could at least meet me half way rather than always expecting me to drive out their way.
I have the same problem with my Mom's boyfriend. Every time I call, he asks where I've been, even if it's been a week or two since my last trip out there (they also live an hour away). At least I make the effort to call, which is more than they do. I remind him that the road goes both ways.
With the Christmas holidays coming up, all the running around visiting really gets to me. I also just found out that my DH and I are expecting in July. What can I do to get people to meet me halfway so I won't be doing all this traveling with a baby (and all the baby stuff) in tow?