Grief for not Visiting Enough

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Registered: 06-09-2003
Grief for not Visiting Enough
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 3:04pm
Does anyone feel like they're always being pressured from friends and family to visit them but they never visit you?

I encounter this same problem over and over again. Some friends that live near my old town e-mail me often asking me to come out and visit them and I did visit them several times. I also invited them to my very casual wedding reception this past summer; they said they'd attend but they never showed. I've talked to these friends since then and they keep pressuring me to drive out to see them again (an hour one way). I feel that if they want to see me so badly, they could at least meet me half way rather than always expecting me to drive out their way.

I have the same problem with my Mom's boyfriend. Every time I call, he asks where I've been, even if it's been a week or two since my last trip out there (they also live an hour away). At least I make the effort to call, which is more than they do. I remind him that the road goes both ways.

With the Christmas holidays coming up, all the running around visiting really gets to me. I also just found out that my DH and I are expecting in July. What can I do to get people to meet me halfway so I won't be doing all this traveling with a baby (and all the baby stuff) in tow?


Mommy to Samantha Renee 12/11/04

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Registered: 06-09-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 3:10pm
Congratulations on the pregnancy!

Unfortunately, I'm much in the same boat as you when it comes to visiting, so don't have much helpful advice.

At least now you'll have a great excuse; just tell everyone that it'll be really difficult toting a baby and all that he/she requires to make visits too often, but you'd love to have them stop by and visit you.

Sorry I couldn't help more:(

Best of luck to you with the new baby!



You haven't been visiting the board much! Just kidding!

Edited 11/25/2003 3:16:28 PM ET by niffer71